Dealing with Anxiety/Depression

Mental health
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iv been down for nearly 3 weeks now and dont realy know what to do - my first day back to work today and iv been ok most of the time but had a small period where i just wanted to cry - this is what i dont understand - i dont know why i want to cry or why i am crying at times 

i am getting married very soon and it is a big step , and not sure if thats whats making me sad or scared - im having problems sleeping when before all i ever did was sleep - always looking to talk to people about what im going through - 

iv been to my gp who told me to talk KALMS as i refused any addictive medication - and also suggested maybe counselling - has this helped anyone before? 

 

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sorry forgot to mention - im not getting panic attacks or anything - just headaches and a pressure all over my head and face at times, sometimes i feel like i just want to be sad - hard to explain 

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Hi getting married is supposed to be a happy event however it is a massive stressor and you are bound to be feeling pressure.It is a huge life event and perhaps you are worrying more than you think.Try to keep talking and take it a day at a time.If you find you are not coping go back to your doctor and discuss other options if don't want medication see if you can get counseling.

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 Sounds like there's an underlying issue causing your anxiety. Yes getting married is a very big step and you want to make sure you are at the right place in your mind before you take that step..   or it can definitely affect the marriage.

 anxiety and depression often go hand-in-hand. Some people are depressed and they don't even know it. 

I would highly suggest speaking with a counselor who specializes in anxiety. It's hard to overcome alone and it really helps to talk to someone who is a professional and can help you get to the bottom of why you're feeling this way.   Open up to him or her and say what you are truly feeling or what you're afraid of etc. 

 I hope you feel better soon 

 

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I have suffered chronic anxiety for six years and been prescribed Diazepam 5mg up to 3x a day as required for pharygeal spasm (over tightening of the throat muscles) I also have panic attacks for about 5 years.

In my opinion Diazepam is the fastest working (about 20-30mins) and most efficient medicine for my symptoms.

Doc told me the trick is to not allow your body to get used to them i.e. take only when required as the long term effects can include addiction and/or body getting used to them so they dont work any more.

Personally over the last five years of taking them on and off I cant speak highly enough of Diazepam, it definately relaxes my symptoms and me very quickly.

If you are suffering with anxiety Diazepam will / should help relax you and has a half life (stays in your system) of 2-5 days so depending on the severity of your anxiety you may need more until anxiety calms down but it is only a short term fix because of its addictive properties.

You may want to try CBT or Therapy via your doctors referral to get to the root cause of your anxiety and help you to manage it better.

Best Wishes for a speedy full recovery and an Awesome Wedding

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Hi if you don't mind me asking have you been counselling?? I do tend to feel better when talking to people who understands what I'm going through

Because alot of people say to me don't 'overthink' or stay positive etc but what they don't realsie is it makes me worse

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I'm soooo happy I'm getting married and have the best partner ever ..I'm so lucky to have her ..but last few weeks IV been down I feel as if I'm dragging her down with me and she doesn't deserve that

Doctor referred me to something called IAPT - counselling I think

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Thank you for your reply - I hope your managing your anxiety better than myself

IV heard alot about diazapam but very reluctant to take it , from reading your response I can see you would recommend it. May I ask..have u been therapy before ??

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You are unwell at the moment and your fiance is probably wanting to help you.You don't deserve to feel this way but it is part of life.If your fiance was suffering you would be with her regardless so don't beat yourself up about it.Just keep going take it one day at a time and know that you will not always feel like this.

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Hi, yes I have had two previous cbt courses..

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did it work ?

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i know im overthinking alot of the times -i keep thinking things like she didnt sign up for this when she met me etc 

i know i need to stop thinking negative but i cant help it 

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Hi, at the time I was suffering with health anxiety so yes it did help, however at the moment I have chronic anxiety and depression and am on my second course with a psycotherapist and have been diagnosed with PTSD.