Hello ladies, I am seeing a new doctor soon. I wrote this ...maybe I should sent it!
Dear Doctor:
Please understand the immense effort it was for me to get here
I am tired, dizzy and my mind is not clear
Please do not suggest more scans, tests and X-rays
As I’ve had a thousand in previous days
Please do not shrug your shoulders and say “ I don’t know”
Or suggest I increase my Lexapro!
Please understand this is not how I used to be
Nausea, fatigue, aches, pains and riddled with anxiety
Please understand this is not how I want to be
A normal person shouldn’t be tired at a quarter past 3!
Please understand I do not deserve to feel this way
I hope you are worth the co pay!
Hi Lou
I think it covers everything! When you see it on paper, isn't it amazing that we are able to function in jobs, home, with kids etc. You should be super proud of yourself. What jumped out to me was 'this is not how I used to be'. I also feel sometimes you have to point that out.... It's like noone knows the person I was, only me! Chin up Lou, you're a fighter xx
Good for you..that speaks for so many of us! Keep us posted as to how you’re doing and what helps. 😊
Lou!!!! Omg!!!! That is fantastic!!!😊😊💕💕🙏🙏🙏.
Great post Lou ! Yes you have to tell the drs want you WANT ! It seems we have to do our own research first. They only give us what ? 10 mins to explain everything then they’re on to the next patient .
And yes! I too have the exhaustion at 3pm sit there just waiting to go to bed at 7.30pm it’s no life !
I know and they are staring at their computer screen or leaving the room for 8 minutes of it 🙄. I know you struggle with this awful fatigue too. My periods are hardly anything nowadays...but my symptoms are horrible. I cannot imagine the poor women who bleed heavily on top of all these symptoms. I scaled back on my AD yesterday...really strange head feeling yesterday and zombie like fatigue. I’m not liking this!
Hi lou....it would be no harm to take to with you and just list the things of when i go to the doctor. I tend to forget when im there so why not do that....a good doctor will listen and if they dont...they dont deserve to be one.....hope it goes well...lots of love xxxx
Lou - this is beautiful. I hope you had some therapeutic relief when writing this. I keep looking at these words:
Please understand this is not how I used to be
For some of us - it was literally like we woke up and BAM. That's what it was for me -an extreme hormonal crash.
I'm thankful for this forum. I'm encouraged by you and your tenacity; it gives me hope! Take care!
Thanks Carol, I have my crumpled up paper in my purse with all my ailments. At least this time around I will not cry for half the appointment. I’m on an AD...dry mouth, dry eyes and unable to cry...good times🙄
Yes make sure if you’re going off it to taper it’s very important so you don’t crash and be prepared for different feelings .
Why are you going off it now ? I wish I could take them as my mood is so low but they don’t agree with me .
I cut the pill in half the last 2 mornings to 5 mg. I was on 10 mg for 21 days. Just had my period Mon and Tues. Wed, I crashed. Awful fatigue, dizziness, faint. Felt really weird, brain damaged, anxious, depressed. Also, I have to be up at 5 am and drive my son to school. Thank god not the whole way...I meet up with a friend. Then, get my little one out the door afterwards. I am not hungry that early and try to drink. So nauseous! I do not do well in the mornings anymore. I’m just aggravated!
5am! Gosh don’t know how you do it ... I wake up and lie in bed for hours .. literally CANNOT move !
I was like that before the AD...I felt dead for 2 months. Literally exhausted, laying around but not sleepy. I had no appetite, lost 15 lbs. I was depressed, just didn’t know it, because I never felt tbat way before! So, it has helped me a bit. Just so confusing! I get irritated because I’m on it, and I wish I felt better. Which is more evidence that it is clearly a hormone issue! Seems around my cycle, I tank. But, before the AD, I would just stay in that funk. I just want to be normal, get back to work. Converse with friends , lunch, etc. I can only plan day to day. I hate it. 😐
Well they say the Ad is just a band aid and that you must ‘go through it’ sometime but at this point if it’s making you feel better then go for it ! Wish I could take them as I’m at the lowest of the low .... but side effects too strong for me and there is something to be said for feeling the pain and getting through it naturally. the body and mind is a powerful machine and I’m sure ‘it’ wants us to feel normal again too. Can’t wait to just feel content again
Ba-Bam!
Love it! Need to make copies and send to every one of the doctors I went to.
To the concierge doctor who smiled and declared I was perfectly healthy. To the cardiologist who said I needed to practice mindfulness (see you when you hit 50 chick), to the endocrinologist who said there was no way I was in perimeno (even though I was in my 50s and skipping periods), the psychologist who talked non stop and tried to tell me how to breathe, and on and on..
I was going to educate them all once I got well enough.
🤣 No kidding! I had a 30 something intern and his 20 something nurse laugh at me in the ER once. I waited 6 mo to see an endocrinologist only to be told “ I don’t deal with woman’s hormones”. Healthcare right down the toilet. My primary dr told me to seek counseling too. Nothing against it, but just don’t feel like explaining all my crap to somebody else! I save it for this forum! Stay well! 🤗
Ah lou....you can always pray....without it ud be lost and ill pray that your doctor will listen and be sympathethic. You deserve it....God bless and let us know how it goes...keep looking up..😊 x
Thanks for sharing Lou! I am sure that if men had menopause, scientists would have found the right therapy!!!
😂👍🏼That was great, Lou!!! What a great post!! Your humour hit on all points!!