Hi,
This Ezaldden talk to you from Syria. I reach your website in favor of a help you may provide to me.
I have been suffering from deep depression for almost a year. It's periodic not continuous and it wasn't that issue till the last month.
My fiancee won scholarship and she's leaving country to Portugal. Since then, my work dramatically has been deteriorating. In the last couple of weeks, I couldn't work more than 2 hours per day. Main point is I am not frustrated because of leaving of my love, but because I am not motivated in the work which I love anymore. I tend to be isolated person, I am not a social guy. I am web developer and have great career so far.
I reach to a very critical point now, I feel I am useless, alone and pretty much lost. I have no goals, can't make myself happy again and yes, tears come out sometimes.
No psycosocial support available in the area to receive any service. PLEASE HELP!
Hi Ezaldden,
sorry you are feeling so bad. As difficult as it is try to just do your daily activities. You have to stay busy. If you can force yourself to do some exercise it would help too.
Is there anyway you can move to Portugal? Is she ever coming back?
Hi
Thanks for answering me my friend.
I am not able to make myself busy. I don't know why I am just not willing to do anything anymore. Just last month I was massively recognized by employer as good person.
My love won't be here for two years at least, and I am not able to go to Portugal as I am Syrian.
Do you have Skype? Maybe you can talk daily with her?
Two years is a long time but it will go. Think of how bad she feels about how depressed you are.
She wants you to do well. For her, try and force yourself, at the very least to eat enough food a day. And get some exercise.
It will be okay, she is coming back
Hello Ezaldden. I am so glad that you have reached out to us. May I ask you a question? Do I understand that you have been very depressed for a month? And if you have been depressed for a month did something in particular happen something specific happen when you first got depressed? Hope you can answer me. Diane
Hello. I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling so down, I hope you find comfort in knowing you have someone who loves you and an excellent career. You may feel lonely but you never are alone and your partner is only at the end of a phone/email/letter. Try staying active and push yourself to socialise. Do you have close friends or family you can talk to about how you are feeling? Don't be afraid to ask for support.
Take care
Hi Diane,
Honestly, I am very open-minded guy, and not jealous and my finacee is totally a free lady. But I am start feeling she may broke up after leaving Syria. It's stupid thoughts, I trust her A LOT, but I can't help myself on this. Also, my town is suffering from rockets, a serious danger comes from terrorists around us, so living in fear was enough reason to be down.
My love gave me a great help to approve she is loving me, and yes she almost succeeded on this. No more rockets as the terrorist groups go away from us. But I lost myself as consequences.
Deeply, I don't know who I am and what role should I play in the life
Hope I answered well
Hi there it's Diane again I heard you say you are not frustrated over your girlfriend leaving but over your not being motivated to work like you always have been in the past. Am I hearing you right? We can work on solutions once we hear what you consider the problem is. We are here we care you are not alone. See how many caring people have answered you! Diane
Hi it's Diane and yes I completely understand your answer!! I would be down and honestly scared and confused if I had rockets shooting out around me. That is normal human reaction! If I had a love relationship move to another country at the same time I can see why you will feel insecure until you and she have time to adjust to the new fact that she is in Portugal Did she say she is breaking up with you?
You are right, I need to be more specific.
The fact that my fiancee is leaving is the answer for your previous question "did something in particular happen something specific happen when you first got depressed?"
Losing motivation, though, is my main concern now. I think it's why am not confident of myself anymore. I used to keep myself busy. I don't know what happened to me. This is ridiculous.
NO!
She is totally committed to our relationship. I know she loves me.
No this is not ridiculous! Two things have happened your girl moved to Portugal and war with rockets going around your head are going on. That is a lot to cope with. Give yourself time to adjust. I do not think this will go on forever but war is real!! Diane
Great that is huge so then you just have to use all the things at your disposal computer/phone/skype/email as has already been mentioned to stay close to her!! Right?? Diane
Skype is the solution to reduce distance between us, yes. But this won't be the answer to a question keep nagging in my head: "What I meant to be in this life? why I became useless suddenly"
I am thinking of giving myself a few days to see if mentally I will get over, or get worse. I am going to workout, go for a walk from time to time and read more about depression. This is my plan for the next 15 days hope this is will be useful. Please share any suggestion if you have, Diane.
Many thanks for you
I think those are great ideas any time I can get in some physical exercise my depression is always better. Will you keep in touch with us? I hope you will since you are feeling all alone. I wanted to ask you do you have access to doctors I think you said no in your original email. Diane
Unfortunately, I don't have any access.
Anyway, just sharing my pain in this website made me feel a litter better.
I will let you updated as much as I can.
Ezaldden
Has your motivation been effected by the departure of your Girl Friend or do you feel that your condition is caused by other personal problems. Are you loosing your interest in your work, if so what are the reasons.
Is the conflict in Syria causing you any problems ??
BOB
That is great. We will look to hear from you now and any time day and night. So glad that you feel some better. It always helps me feel better to make contact here where it's anonymous and safe! Diane
Hi BOB,
The leave of GF, losing interest in working anything, not specifically my current work, the situation in Syria are all reasons to lose enthusiasm I used to have.
Hi ezaldden,
Sometimes depression can hit anyone at any time, no matter weather you are rich or poor young or old. It’s an awful illness, it’s scary it’s sad and lonely dark place . But you can get well again, don’t be too hard on your self, tell your self that you are not well at the moment and you need to look after you now, this is so important , you need to take small steps, just try one small activity a day. Walking was the best for me, even crying helps. It’s a shame you can’t see a dr to give you some medication. How is your sleep pattern? Are you able to sleep at night?
Also for me prayer helped me so much, faith in god and helping others helped me to take my focus away from me. I believe depression is a kind of re growth, although sad and painful it does help to think of it this way.
Also drawing colouring any kind of art work, talking on here writing a diary. Do what ever it takes to help you feel better. Come on here as much as possible and talk to us.
Sending you hugs 🤗