Depressed and scared. Just want to be happy.

I feel so depressed and scared.

All my life I have had problems with anxiety and depression, certain things will trigger it and I find it hard to go back to the same places again.

My mum has been suffering with the same thing for over a year and this week tried to take her own life by overdosing on her tablets. This has hit me hard and I just want my mum back at home and how she used to be before all of this started.

I have managed to carry on for so long and it has finally got to me, I just feel like giving up on everything.

My job isn't what I want and at the moment isn't a happy place as they gave the job I applied for to someone else who has more experience, but I have worked with her before and I do not like her, so working with her is going to be very hard to deal with, especially as me and my colleagues all think I should have got the job. I feel like I have been used to do the job when they needed someone and then pushed aside like I'm nothing. It used to be a happy place for me to go and an escape from my home life but most people have left now and I'm stuck there, I wish everything would just go back to how it was.

Another thing that has boosted my anxiety recently is that I have been going out with a guy for 2 1/2 months and he is my first boyfriend. This terrifies me and after enjoying the first few months, I now dread seeing him and feel sick all the time. I have even been sick 3 times when I've been to see him, which has freaked me out. He told me he loved me a few weeks ago and this has freaked me out too as I don't feel the same. And I'm worried I won't ever do and that hurts me because I want to feel the same as him and I don't want to break his heart. I also feel like I wouldn't find anyone as understanding and caring again. Why can't I just be happy with what I've got???

All of this is leading me to not be able to eat because my mind won't let me, I have constant nervous butterflies in my stomach which are driving me insane and I just want to feel better. It's like a living hell. I'm so scared of ending up like my mum and keep feeling out of control again like I have in the past. I have got through this before but this time it's so much worse and I'm not sure how to get through it this time.

I feel like I'll never be able to have a relationship because of my anxieties. I never see myself with someone but at the same time I don't want to be alone forever. I wish that I could just be happy and enjoy life. I don't want to break up with my boyfriend but I feel it's the only way to lessen some of this anxiety. I know I'd be sad without him too though. I just feel hopeless and wish I could stop the constant voice in my head questioning everything and making me feel like everything I do is wrong.

So sorry to hear what you are going through! Anxiety and depression suck! Iam going through a bad time right now too, feeling so insecure and feeling fearful of everyday life! This female has suffered with these symptoms all my life and it is extremely hard! I hope you have consulted a doctor and try to get some medication relief! Several members of my family have suffered with this also!

 

I'm the same. Everyday fearfull. Im 48 and still living with my elderly parents and stuck in a dead end job. I hate looking at Facebook as a lot of people I used to know are married with kids in big houses. They're always going on holiday and look happy. I have forgot how to smile and am aleays in pain with neck and back ache. I feel I have wasted my life. Sorry to hear that things are great with you guys. I just don't know what to do.

Things aren't great with you