My ex and I have been broken up for almost 2 years. He suffers with depression and is still obsessed with me. I am recently dating a new guy who I really like but somehow my ex boyfriend managed to get his number and is texting him weird things... mostly about my personal life and bringing up my new boyfriends life. This has jeopardized my new relationship because my new boyfriend thinks I'm surrounded by psychopaths and doesn't want anything to do with me because of my ex boyfriend. What should I do?
Tell your new bf to block your ex.
Just explain the situation to him and if he really want to be with you he will stay regardless of your harassing ex.
That shouldn't be an excuse for him to not be with you because of him.
Does your ex still live nearby?
My ex texts from random phone numbers that can't be traced. I have explained the situation to my new boyfriend and I think he has had enough of the harassing text messages and decided to cut me off because he think they will stop if he stops talking to me. I'm so upset that my ex is ruining new beginnings for me. Should I give my new guy a few days to cool off and then show up to his house to talk about things? Do you think he will be open to seeing me again after all this?
Has your bf tried confronting your ex by text? Telling him straight.
Yeah a bit of breathing space may help the situation.
Either way you need to sort this with your ex as this will keep on happening with every bf you have unless that bf doesn't care or tells your ex straight.
Hi Sam you don't need to put up with it although my experience is completely different than yours.
I contacted my ex about our child when she didn't answer I worried more and so messages more
None nasty I'd like to put that out there right now all concerning the wealthfair of the baby access etc
However she had a new boyfriend too and didn't want me in the way she went to the police and I was arrested for harassment I thought it funny at the time and sort of laughed it off and thought I'd go to court and prove it wasn't harrasment
So I went to court quite confident this will be thrown out boy was I wrong ya see harrasment apparently is a matter of perspective if the messages are unwanted them it's harrasment regardless of the content because she stopped answering me then in the courts and legal sense I harassed her I went to jail for 6 weeks and ended up with a 3 year restraining order all because I wanted something to do with my child and she didn't want me in the way of her new life making this arkward I got a sh*t deal to be fair
However it seems this individual is harassing you from any and all points of view and not just you if it's causing you distress and effecting your live you can involve the police
Hi Sam - sorry to read of your situation. If your ex texts again, ask your boyfriend to respond that all texts have been saved as evidence and that any further contact by him will result in a police report. If your new bf is going to blame you for the behaviour of your ex, then move on. Meanwhile give your new bf the space he needs.