struggle to get I'm nearly 28, 90-95% of my life has been stressful and unhappy because I had a terrible home life. I left home for 19 to go to uni in a different city but stayed in touch with my parents cos I have brothers under 10. Things came to a head 3 years ago and I haven't spoken to my parents for 3 years. I got better for a while. It took me 6 years to get my degree, my brain has had enough, I'm constantly tired, my brain is slow, I have memory and concentration problems. I also have back pain on and off. My main problem now is that I'm fed up of never ending depression, I can't lose weight, I'm about 2/3 stone (20/30lbs heavier than I used to be. I can't work but struggle to get disability benefits. I'm so fed up, distraught and at the end of my tether.
dear Becktoria,
You have achieved a huge amount in such a short time. Sticking with that degree for six years shows how dedicated a person you are. Give yourself a break. I think you just need to start looking after yourself, eating right, taking 30 minutes of exercise daily. After a few weeks your self-esteem will lift, I promise. You are a sensitive, intelligent young woman. Maybe you could hold the white flag up to your family. Build bridges? You can't change the past, but you can move on and have a better future with them? If they don't want to reconcile, then at least you tried? Things will get better. Maybe you could get a doctor's appointment, and they could take a blood test to see if your thyroid is underactive? I felt my life was overwhelming me at 28, so please, please don't give up sweetie. xxxxx
Becktoria, you are doing brilliantly well. The fact that you had a hard start in life, but have achieved a degree is amazing. It's clear that you are a survivor and an achiever. Fact.
This awful time will pass, I promise. Hang in there, dont expect too much of yourself, and be your own best friend. You will have a great life. All the best x
My family are abusive, I'm better off without them. I asked my GP to test my thyroid but they said it's fine. I didn't gain any weight til I changed antidepressants, I'm still trying to diet, it's hard not to beat myself up.
Thank you for your reply xxxx