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I'm 26 and from about the age of 20 I have suffered depression from the pain of others esp young children , I have had many problems in my life that have brought me down but I always get back up and deal with it well , but ever since having my first child at 20 when ever I see people being hurt killed or abused in all forms it hits me hard I can't sleep it's like I can feel there pain I never new so much emontion before when I speak to others I think they just think I'm sensitive but it's deeper than that if I hear or see on the news or any where else about abuse on a child that's it , it's all I think about and how they feel or felt , why are people so cruel . I'll go out at night to a bar which doesn't happen often and one little thing will make me think about children suffering, then that's my night over as guilt kicks in I question myself how can I sit here laughing a drinking knowning what's happening in the world we carry on with our day to days lives ignoring the pain of others while we do Nothing . I have two children which are my life I wasn't a kid person at all when I was young I mean I didn't dislike them I just wasn't the one to be interest but as soon as I had a child it changed my babies became my world my biggest fear is losing them I try not to think about it coz it's sends me crazy I would die for them without a second thought which had me thinking does motherhood play a part in my depression as I feel like I need to protect children as if they were my own I feel like I can feel there pain it's so hard to explain because no one I know gets it it's as if the pain has happened to me but kinda not because I can deal better with my own than others pain I find it hard to get out of this state as there's never been a time in history were we weren't hurting each other It's feel like the bad over weighs the good they say we were made in gods imagine we'll I'm confused because this world isn't godly there are people starving being abused and killed and it's like which problem do you tackle first there's so many I feel no hope in the human race we mainly only care about our selfs I mean you get the few that cry at rednoseday programmes donate ten pound then go to sleep and wake up like nothing is going on in the world like can't you feel the darkness spreading on this earth but nope no ones gets me they they say they get what I mean they don't don't FEEL what I mean it's like my mind has opened up to the real world TBH I wish I did still live in my own fantasy where my life was about me and what I wanted in live not caring becausing caring it something that's hard in a world like this anyway if anyone does read this am I the only one and why is this happening to me and does it get better even though the world never seems too
do others accuse you of being "too sensitive"? if so, you could have a very empathic nature about you. you should look up what being an empath is...just a suggestion.
Was gunna say just the same laura xx when you have youre own children the part of u ecs regarding children does become sensitive more on the subject you have mentioned rachel. It becomes more abhorrent and the mum in us kicks in. But hey im highly sensitive & have a huge ♡ and startimg to learn i want to embrace it and not treat it like the enemy anymore.. to have empathy is beautiful xxx
I wish you had been my Mum, or even my next door neighbour, or a teacher at school!
People didnt concern themselves about what occurred in families back in my day.
Hey peter i think the same. In the 70s & 80s i wished there had been ppl out there who could just SEE what was happening. Would have been a better place huh xx
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Thank you so much for your reply to be honest with you I don't believe in any thing spiritual but me being me as it's in my nature to find out more so I looked a little deeper into it I read an article about empaths and I was in tears it's describe things that fit in to my life to a t it's actually very scary I'm an atheist and barely believe in any thing apart from what we see but this has certainly got my interest maybe I need to have more of an open mind and see where this takes me hopefully it can help me in order to do what I feel I need to do to help with my situation again thank you so much for showing me a different path to the one I've been on so far
Hi there. Yes just look beyond wat u have already. Maybe you will find answers & happiness down another path anew. Good luck sweetie xxx
enjoy the new sense of relief you get when you begin to understand yourself more!
I don't suppose any one knows of any groups that's try to tackle child abuse poverty etc as much as I care I don't have a clue how I can help I don't want to be someone who just ignores this but I don't know where to start any suggestions would be great it's great to get responses and to hear from other who care too sometimes I just feel like the Debbie downer to every body n it's o here we go again she's going to cry again which deeply scares me that so many people around me don't feel how strongly as I do like don't you feel their pain like I can hear the screams and crying in my head it's makes me feel sick to my stomach and like a wierd kinda pain at the same time I get days better days where I handle it better but it's very rare these days
I used to visit the childless couple who lived nextdoor when I was a boy, they liked me as they had no children and I liked them because they would talk to me, "what are all those purple marks around your neck?" I was once asked by the lady who was also a nurse, "thats where my stepfather strangled me" I replied, if only child abuse back then was socially unacceptable, could have saved a load of innocents a lot of hurt.
Aww wow xx so sad to hear that but incredibly familiar. I went into an elderly couples house with my little brother they would feed us & it felt so safe there. Even now i love goin into elderly ppls houses with work and to me they are the most lovely looking houses ever... everyone around us knew wat was happening but thet didnt say anything back then. I had a local church i used to go 2 as much as i cld & was lucky 2 have a sunday sch teacher who tried to look after me and has been my inspiration xxxxx
Hi Peter
it's situations like yours that deeply concern and the fact no body did anything infuriates me I'm so sorry you have to go through that I'm guessing by you being in a depression group chat that maybe it has affected you to this day what a child goes through can shape the rest of thier lives im so sadden you had yours full of abusive I hope you find light at the end of the tunnel and find someone who shows you love that you deserve I'm so sorry you didn't get this when you needed it the most
https://www.nspcc.org.uk/
http://napac.org.uk/
But my very favourite one of all because the only years of my childhood I was free from fear and abuse was in one of their childrens homes:- https://www.childrenssociety.org.uk/
Of course maybe you are not in UK?, in whcih case try Google.
Guessing you went through things too?, I was sad for this lovely gentle couple who obviously would have loved children of their own but couldnt, yet lived next door to a couple that made it very clear how much they didnt want me.
It has indeed effected me to this day Rachel, those broken children often remain broken children for the rest of their lives, their bodies develop but they are still stuck at that point in their lives when their record got scratched and the needle cannot go any further. Adult Reactive Attachment Disorder is the label they gave me.
Ud be right. Xx ill private msg u xx
Hi,
What I am about to write will upset many on this site, I apologise in advance, this is only my opinion:
Back in the mid 1950s, at the age of 5 my parents moved to East Africa where we stayed until Uhuru 1962.
Even at that young age I was confused as to the situation between white and black, rich and poor.We had a nanny and a houseboy (Shangala ) I loved being with the nanny and she taught me Swahili , Shangala taught me how to make a bow and arrow, and the best catapult ever. However there were no black children at school and black people had to travel on their own buses. In the towns no black people had any of the shops, mostly run by Asians. I saw great poverty just a short walk from where I lived in comparative luxury.
Now, today I witness great poverty and injustice throughout the whole of Africa, WHY.
There must have been billions poured into that vast continent since the 50s yet not much has improved for the indigenous population.Myself, I point the finger at the church and well meaning charities first, and politicians next.It suits many to keep those countries in Africa unstable and dependent on foreign aid.
We see this poverty and injustice and turmoil 24/7 thanks to media coverage and we donate in the hope it will help the world's needy - it wont.
This is why we went to war against innocent Libya in order to remove Gaddafi, he had the resourses and the desire to unite and help Africa, to free it from financial bondage to the West. The West wasnt going to let that happen.
Hi I see no one has mentioned this yet but there is a type of depression which takes the form of worrying so much about the injustice and pain in the world that it interferes in the sufferers daily life.
Of course we all hate seeing and hearing about cruelty to others and the world can be a horrible place for some poor souls, but when it affects our daily living to this extent it could be depression or anxiety.