Hey there I'm 22 years of age and Im in a sitatuion where I feel helpless so currently, lately I sleep in because atm ive got no purpose, ive told my mum to book in my driivng lessons but she has not done anything about it for months, Everytime I talk about getting a job she starts baffling on about my medication or she tells me s**t and makes me doubt myself. I can't have most jobs becaues I don't have a reliable source of transport (Car) im 22 and getting older and the older I get the more lack of opportunitys I have. I dont feel confident to use public transport because i dont know how to read/understand the bus time table properly
(Don't Judge) im still learning the system. I feel trapped its the reason I have depression to be honest. My dad never talks about our problems and than ignores until it gets to the moment and than makes up some excuse.
On top of everything my school friends think im making excuses or useless and i feel like i cant be successful coz i feel trapped, I try not to think about things but when ur seeing the world move forward and people getting older u feel like ur still 12 getting your mother to make ur toasted sandwitches...
I feel like I wish I wasn't around but im not going to tell my doctors because they will prescribe anti depresssants or something and I don't need meds, I just need to get the ball rolling with my life.
Hi don't discount meds because they can help you feel better and more able to deal with your issues. It doesn't mean you will be on them for life or anything. Counselling is the way to go though so are you getting any?
If you don't want to go the medical route then have a look online for counselling courses and mindfullness etc.
Hi Joseph - I second what hypercat has written. Meds are a tool that will help even out your mood and should be used in conjunction with therapy to overcome any issues buried inside and festering. Depression needs to be addressed head on to effectively overcome it - or at least learn to live with it.
I am wondering what payoff your mum is getting by belittling your attempts to be independant? You are 22. Are you able to arrange your own driving test? Take things one step at a time. Your ultimate freedom is working to become independant. 22 is still very young - there's a whole lifetime ahead of you. Things will take as long as they take, but we must take action to bring about change. Try not to let others get you down. Just create your personal goal (licence) and focus on achieving that. Then move to the next goal. You'll make it.
I'm 24 I feel the same way. I still don't have my driver's license. Why don't you ask a friend to take you to apply for a job. Some jobs you can apply online. Even getting your drivers license can be done. Get the book so you can study the questions and then try to get someone to take you to practice driving if you haven't done so already. Dony worry you're young. But don't wait more be direct with your mom so she can help you. Or ask your friends. You do have a purpose. You just haven't been given the opportunity. You seem eager to get a job and your drivers license. That's good. It's never too late. You're 22 you are not old. But act now convince your mom to get a appt. tell her you want to get a job.
I would say the same you need Therapy. You said you want to get a job and want your driver's license. So you do want to change. Good. Dont let your thoughts win. They are false. Once you get help towards your goals you will feel better and happier. You feel trapped I understand. Your mother needs to help you. Try to make her hear you out.
i agree with everything everyone else is saying, your mum is supposed be helping not putting you down. you dont need to rely on public transport i mean you can go to town and back and learn how to read bus timetables and train timetables or go with someone else and just learn the times buses run. theres lots of things you can do and you dont have to tell your mum just as long as your not a risk to yourself by going out alone or with someone else you should be ok, your mum doesnt run your life you do, your in control no one else, take control and be who you want to be.