I am still crying. Lost my husband and now a Male friend doesn't want to see me anymore. Don't know what to do. I see a counselor and I am on meds.
Donna,
My heartfelt thoughts go out to you. Losing your husband is traumatic enough without this added pain on top of that. I'm so sorry this has happened.
A real friend would not do this without some prior explanation to you. It is little wonder you are hurting, even if one was given, the fact that they are leaving you in an already painful state seems a very selfish, irresponsible and somewhat reckless act on their part.
In my experience, I think no matter what the situ, some will do what they want regardless of the pain the other person is going through, together with little thought for the ramifications it causes. So, it would be easy for me to say, forget this person, though easier said than done. You are in a vulnerable state though you have obviously gained the strength to see a counsellor.
Seeing a counsellor is a way forward to gain clarity and hopefully some calm. At times we feel we can never gain the answers to closure though that's where the help of the counsellor will benefit you.
I know this is so very painful, take the time to invest in you with healing and meditation. Talk to others who are here to listen. I so hope the pain eases in time as you deserve some peace of mind. Please, let me and others know how you are feeling.
I once heard someone say - 'people we meet are here to place you on another path you are meant to be on'. Somewhat existential though it helps.
You sound like a wonderful person. Thank you for your response. It is very tough for me right now. I just want to cry and I feel so lonely.