Depression

[nh_user_931343]

For the last week I have been feeling not my normal self. I feel like giving up on everything. I cannot get a job to get settled in where I live. I have tried all the courses to try and get a job and get settle. It is now effecting me so much. I just do not want to know about anything. I am on another course and I feel I will not yet again get a job and get settle. I have been living in the town for the last 13 years. I have had over 20 jobs in 13 years. and I have done lots  of courses to see if that would make a difference. I do not feel it will make any difference. When I speak to people and tell them that I might have to move to get a job all I get is stay where you are and they say I may get a job. It is know at the point it is no9w costing me a lot of money living where I am. I feel it is really effecting me so much that I have given up on everything. I feel I have no one to turn to. None of my family will sit and listen me and none of my so called friends will sit and listen to me as well.

​If any of my family or friends are in trouble, need help or they want someone to listen to them they always come to me all the time. Right now I am really suffering with isolation, loneliness and depression. I have no support from any one. if I go to the doctors they will  not listen to me as I am a single male and I am treated as a third class citizen.

All I want is for someone to listen to me and give me a job so I can feel settled in my life. 

[nh_user_20468]

Hi I think the first thing you need to do is work out what aspect(s) of a job keeps making you leave one?  For example do you prefer to work indoors or out of doors?  Do you prefer a job where you are physical active or where you can sit down most of the day?

Is it the work itself which is not right for you?  For example I had a job I quite liked in an office where I had a degree of autonomy and control.  My next job though was in a call centre and I hated the target driven culture and the sense of being trapped with no control over how I did my work and no job satisfaction etc.

Is it the hours you hate?  Do you prefer a job where you can talk to people or do you prefer eg to work on your own?  

Lots of questions I know but you need to sort out what you need in a job then look at how to get into the type of job where you would be happiest.  If you aren't sure what you want then make a list of what you don't want. 

Oh and I can't understand why you think of yourself as a 3rd class citizen?  Never heard of a single man calling himself that before.  Unless you are a mind reader you don't know what a doctor will say to you in advance so if you think you are depressed etc. then have a chat with a doctor.  I am sure they will take you as seriously as anyone else.  x