hi I am new to this site and feel I need to talk to other ladies who may have had similar experiences. I am 5 weeks post anterior and posterior prolapse I still have slight discharge which makes me itchy and sore though I wonder if this is part of the healing process. I need to keep taking painkillers I take two Senna at night and the next day (early evening) I know I need to open my bowels but it can hurt abit but sometimes I can be waiting an hour and a quarter for my bowels to be open I dearnt strain as scared of my stitches so have to wait I find its what it all does to you mentally as well as the physical side. I am off work and miss driving and walking my dog, going to the gym and in the house a lot but can't clean up My hubby works kids grown up and gave their life's I just wondered if anyone else felt the same or having similar problems with any advice as you can feel isolated
Hi Diane - i am also 5 weeks post a&p repair - i can understand totally where you are coming from - im at home for another 2 weeks - i was told to lose weight, but make sure to rest, no driving but its too too uncomfortable to walk and oh yes make sure bowels are working well!
I too still feel a bit itchy and sore but find smearing some Sudocrem on a pad is quite soothing - i think this is all part of the healing process - its been way more uncomfortable than I anticipated but I feel much better than this time last week and hope that the improvement continues.
Im missing work (never thought i would say that!) So i understand your feelings of isolation but this is a wonderful forum and im sure you will receive some great advice and reassurance you are not alone.
The only advice I can offer would be a good book and a big blanket hun.
We are all here if you ever need a chat, please don't feel alone.
I found laxido to help with the toilet too.
I don't know if you know the difference in fibre too. There is soluble and insoluble. Have a Google and see if you can change some food if needed xx
Try a little water on a pad and freeze it. Great ice pack xx
HI Dianne, I know just what you mean about the isolation and your feelings must be worst than mine as I am only 12 days post op. It did get to me this week and today with the uncomfortable pulling of the stitches, the itching and the pain I just lost it and creid like a baby. My hubby understands a little and does what he can. But the rest of my family just don't see what a big thing this op is. My daughter still expects me to childmind my grandson after 3 weeks!! she sees me up & about and cant see any visible scars so cannot see why not? I also have a so called good friend who basically said he thought I was whinging and miling it for all it's worth- ex friend now. This forum has been a God send for me. I imigrated to Australia over 30 years ago and have moved around alot with my hubby work. When the kids were small I had friends , as I have grow older I find it even harder to make new friends so I too feel very isolated. Feel free to reach out to me and the ladies on this forum. They are fantastic and Matron has excellent knowledge. Hope you know we are there for you and that you don't need to feel so alone. I am told our hormones are all over the place and this can make us feel even more low. Keep smiling and I hope this helps.
great advice Doris will try that as ice packs bit difficult to hold down there. Thanks for sharing.Doesn't it stick through?
No. It works brilliant. I never went out though!
I swear by coconut oil too. Organic, good stuff, just on the perenium x
matron doesn't recommend anything, but I had such a hard scar in my perenium from difficulties from being cutting during childbirth that I want to avoid that again. So will give coconut oil a go. I have some bio oil to that I was going to try but don't think I can use it down there. Again thanks for sharing.
Hi I'm 10 weeks post op back to work yesterday and broke down in tears..it really is a shocker to the system ie the tiredness and very emontional..but give it time it gets easier I was given very little advice on coming home..but Matron as bin my saviour..she made everything better..very valuable advice..which is sometimes all you need that extra reassurance..it certainly messes with your head..take care look after no 1 xx
It worked for me. Doesn't work for everyone as we are all different but I'd never preach to anyone.
The end of the day coconut oil is natural. My baby boy smells delicious every day! X
Sorry you had a bad day hun. I'm sure it will only get better x
I read somewhere that you can have lazer therapy for hard scars. X
Bless you. It is very hard to recover from surgery. Took me three weeks to get rid of the post anaesthetic groggy feeling. Another three weeks to feel more like myself.
Bowels got going with regular usage of Movicol three times a day to soften the stool and twice a week for a couple of weeks I took senna. All OK and don't need stool softners now.
I have had the itching etc because I used to put on too much sudocream etc which kept everything too moist down there and gave me thrush twice. I was off work for 13 weeks and have only gone back today. I developed ulcers around the vulva, vaginal entrance which is only just healing up now.
I'm 2 weeks post op. Thought I'd turned a corner yesterday as didn't need any pain killers - leg and buttock pain has totally gone. Ive had a bladder infection and I've been on strong antibiotics for over a week now, but it still doesn't feel right and I'm not weeing normally and there is still a sharp pain every now and then. I can really feel my stitches today!
This recovery is just as hard mentally as it is physically. I'm 37 years old, divorced with 2 children. I spend all day at home by myself with nothing to do and I am sick of TV. Then when the kids come home I don't have any patience with them. Its an incredibly lonely place and today I'm feeling very sad. I'm putting on weight, my skin and hair looks terrible, even if I put makeup on I still look terrible and I'm totally out of the loop at work which I feel may have a detrimental affect on my career. BUT depsite all of this, I know this is short term and things will be better in the long run. Just hanging on to that thought!
I am in the same boat. It is hard when you don't have any obvious sign of injury. It is way harder than I thought it would be.I am 13 days post up and was sure I would be so much farther along. I have been trying to go for a short walk (down my very sort street and back, about 5 houses) but today it is miserable out. I am terrified to fall. I live in Canada so the weather can be depressing. it has been so great hearing that others feel just as frustrated. Before I found this site I thought I was just feelong sorry for myself and should be sucking it up. You all sound like tough positive people. This makes me feel so much better. It is so good to hear that I am not alone.
Hi I got my cystocele repair 7 days ago have been doing fine , had to go to docs today as I now have an infection that is really smelly so got 2 lots if antibiotics to take I'm also getting sore but it's definetly from wearing a pad due to slight bleeding, can't wait till I'm healed so I can lift my baby again x
Hi ladies,
I had a&p repair at the end of November. You all sound exactly like I was at that stage! I was so hard on myself, miserable, felt incredibly lazy and absolutely hated relying on other people (I'm 37 with 10 and 2 year old boys). By 5 weeks I think my husband was sick of me moaning too!! He's a self employed tradesman so he could only really take just over a week off work.
I thought the end was never coming but honestly, it does get better. I spent weeks working myself into a panic that it had failed or if I had a twinge thought that I'd pulled something. The stitches are tight around 3-4 weeks and itchy but I found sudocreme worked well.
I was taking senakot every night until maybe week 8.
Around 5 weeks, it really felt tight and painful (I think I had a 'moaning post' on here about it, but that's normal.
Just hang in there. I agree, it really does knock you for six, I was no way prepared for the recovery but I'm proof that it does get better.
I'm by no means an expert and everyone is different but just thought I'd share with you all.
Take care xx
It's a long recovery but it does get easier each week that goes by. I think I started to feel more myself between 6-8 weeks. As we always say on here you take such a battering down there during this surgery that it takes a lot of patience from us !! I started driving at 6 weeks and that did help me feel less isolated and stuck in so for now - catch up on all those films and books and enjoy an excuse to do abosolutely nothing ! And remember you are never alone on this forum with any thought, feeling or symptom lol xx
Hi everyone thank you for your advice and answers I feel a lot better now for knowing I am not alone. I did try lanacane cream for my sore skin down there externally only of course