# Discouraged Depressed and many many regrets! **URL:** \ **Category:** Bones, joints and muscles\ **Tags:** Hip replacement\ **Created:** [7 November 2016 09:31 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176 "2016-11-07T09:31:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![anon53727290](https://community.patient.info/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/a/67e7ee/32.png) [@anon53727290](https://community.patient.info/u/anon53727290)\ **Post date:** [9 November 2016 00:17 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176/21 "2016-11-09T00:17:29Z")
My Dr said it can take up to three months to really be more recovered than not, and can take up to a year to feel completely normal. Try to keep that in mind and get a good physio like someone else said. I am sending good thoughts and healing Wishes your way. ---
**Author:** ![nh\_user\_988276](https://community.patient.info/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/n/9d8465/32.png) [@nh\_user\_988276](https://community.patient.info/u/nh_user_988276)\ **Post date:** [9 November 2016 01:39 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176/22 "2016-11-09T01:39:28Z")
I believe you and I have had similar problems. I have sciatic pain down my leg that I had the surgery. Plus a drop foot that requires me to where a brace to walk as well. My biggest worry is that I will loose my job. I have been out of work for a total 3 months today. I still cannot walk more than ten steps without one crutch. The more I physiacally do, the more I hurt the nerve it seems. However the actual hip is great, everything else in the leg is wrong. ---
**Author:** ![nh\_user\_929176](https://community.patient.info/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/n/a3d4f5/32.png) [@nh\_user\_929176](https://community.patient.info/u/nh_user_929176)\ **Post date:** [9 November 2016 04:15 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176/23 "2016-11-09T04:15:18Z")
Hi there Sareeta, I'm really sorry to hear what your going through and i know how you feel. I'm 3yrs post op TLHR ceramic on ceramic which i had done at 45yo and 3yrs later I'm still on crutches and in alot of pain I've been though alot i also had a Left knee arthroscope and my abductor tendons and Psoas tendons cut as my due to restricted movement. I suffer with Chronic nerve pain since and i can't walk, sit, stand, for more than 5mins without unbearable pain, travelling increases my pain causes my knee and foot to swell. I have tried everything for my pain and been on 60mgs of Oxynorm, 400mgs of Tapentadol, 10-30mgs of Valium per day unfortunately with all meds i tried me to get Eyraforme Multiforme(Steven Johnson Syndrome) i seriously am over the pain hate my life tiered of the struggle. Ive given up or lost everything in my life i love or that matters. I just finished trialing a spinal nerve stimulating device which went well i had no nerve pain for 7 days but on day 7 i got an infection which is only a 1% chance of getting but of course if things will go wrong it would with me. Now I'm back to full nerve pain and worse than before the Surgeon's were happy with my trial but now it will take 4-5 months maybe more before they can do surgery and put in a permanent stimulator device but problem is i struggle to get through my day let a lone months. Honestly I'm tiered and depressed i just want to end it all now...... ---
**Author:** ![nh\_user\_934049](https://community.patient.info/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/n/4491bb/32.png) [@nh\_user\_934049](https://community.patient.info/u/nh_user_934049)\ **Post date:** [9 November 2016 04:37 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176/24 "2016-11-09T04:37:38Z")
You will be hunting next year Chris. Last year a few weeks before my replacement I went Hog hunting. Could hardly walk and no fun. Could not even stalk. What a difference a year makes. Hang in there ---
**Author:** ![nh\_user\_934049](https://community.patient.info/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/n/4491bb/32.png) [@nh\_user\_934049](https://community.patient.info/u/nh_user_934049)\ **Post date:** [9 November 2016 04:40 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176/25 "2016-11-09T04:40:26Z")
You are certainly not alone. Before you know it you will be outside playing with your son ---
**Author:** ![nh\_user\_934049](https://community.patient.info/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/n/4491bb/32.png) [@nh\_user\_934049](https://community.patient.info/u/nh_user_934049)\ **Post date:** [9 November 2016 04:42 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176/26 "2016-11-09T04:42:20Z")
So sorry Sue. Have you gotten a second opinion? Hang in there ---
**Author:** ![nh\_user\_688247](https://community.patient.info/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/n/ad7895/32.png) [@nh\_user\_688247](https://community.patient.info/u/nh_user_688247)\ **Post date:** [9 November 2016 06:23 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176/27 "2016-11-09T06:23:38Z")
dear sue,  my heart goes out to you ... I wish I had the right words to comfort you ...  Wishing that the right people will show up in your life who will be able to help you get better ... healing rays send your way big warm hug renee ---
**Author:** ![nh\_user\_929176](https://community.patient.info/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/n/a3d4f5/32.png) [@nh\_user\_929176](https://community.patient.info/u/nh_user_929176)\ **Post date:** [9 November 2016 08:09 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176/28 "2016-11-09T08:09:19Z")
Hey Sareeta, I'm sorry i didn't mean to make your post about my issues. I really hope you get well and back to what you were prior to your hip replacement. Just stay focused and positive and things will get better sending you hugs and I'm here if you ever want to talk. ---
**Author:** ![nh\_user\_929176](https://community.patient.info/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/n/a3d4f5/32.png) [@nh\_user\_929176](https://community.patient.info/u/nh_user_929176)\ **Post date:** [9 November 2016 08:36 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176/29 "2016-11-09T08:36:53Z")
Hi there Steve, thank you Yes I've had multiple opinions and my only hope of getting back to some kind of normal or relief from the chronic nerve pain is having the nerve stimulator permanent implant to relieve the nerve pain then 3 months of rehab before they can re operate on my hip and replace part of the hip with plastic then see how it goes. Then it will take another 12mths of intense therapy hoping i can walk again un aided. I'm just really depressed at the moment because I've waited 7yrs since my accident to ride my horses again and have been out on free lease while having a TLHR i never gave up but now things the way they are i will never ride my babies again and reality set in as i had NO CHOICE but to sell my horse which 2 of my babies went to new homes on the weekend. I really feel like I've lost everything, i wss a very active out going woman horses, jet skiing, dirt bike riding i was an adrenaline junky and now i feel like a total looser and aged by at least 10 years. I hate life so much i feel I've been so patient 7 years to recover but i went from bad to worse and just the thought waiting another 5mths before they can do surgery again and living everyday with this pain i seriously don't know if I can do it..... thank you kindly ---
**Author:** ![nh\_user\_979177](https://community.patient.info/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/n/7993a0/32.png) [@nh\_user\_979177](https://community.patient.info/u/nh_user_979177)\ **Post date:** [9 November 2016 08:51 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176/30 "2016-11-09T08:51:22Z")
Ohhh my poor lov 😱😱😱 you really need to see a counsellor, your in far too much pain physically , emotionally and mentally, you can't cope with this alone, you will crack up , it's too much to carry by yourself . You need a lot of support 😪. It's so unfair 😟. ---
**Author:** ![anon53727290](https://community.patient.info/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/a/67e7ee/32.png) [@anon53727290](https://community.patient.info/u/anon53727290)\ **Post date:** [9 November 2016 10:07 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176/31 "2016-11-09T10:07:29Z")
Hi sue, I am soo sorry to hear what you are going through. It's v hard. You are v courageous. I will think of you in my prayers. Love ---
**Author:** ![nh\_user\_934049](https://community.patient.info/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/n/4491bb/32.png) [@nh\_user\_934049](https://community.patient.info/u/nh_user_934049)\ **Post date:** [9 November 2016 14:13 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176/32 "2016-11-09T14:13:29Z")
You can do it Sue. Years ago I came down with a viral encephalitis. The doctors told my wife I would most likely die or be bedridden. The next week they said I just may need a wheel chair. A few days later they side perhaps just a Cane. Well, after a bit of rehab, I am alive and well. No long term effects I walk, travel, do everything I did before. Heck, even got a new hip. You are dealing with a lot. Almost too much, but hang tough. You will be riding again ---
**Author:** ![nh\_user\_992145](https://community.patient.info/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/n/b3f665/32.png) [@nh\_user\_992145](https://community.patient.info/u/nh_user_992145)\ **Post date:** [9 November 2016 14:41 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176/33 "2016-11-09T14:41:53Z")
HI I'm 55 and just coming up to week 3. I was suffering from both Ostio and Avascular Necrosis prior to surgery and my femoral head was described to me post op as looking like it had exploded! Subsequently surgery was slightly more than standard shall we say. I am doing brilliantly, no hip pain whereas I was in agony pre-op and taking 5 different pain killers at the same time just to get by day by day. I do have quite a lot soft tissue pain, however I have the biggest smile. What help is this to me you ask? And I can see why why. When I was 18 a motor cycle accident left me with with multiple fractures in every bone in my left leg, a left hip dislocation, central hip fracture, ruptured Achilles and much more. I thought it was the end of the world. The pain was unbearable at times and I had 12 operations to rebuild my whole left side over the next 2 years. Very early on I realised a positive, strong and determined attitude to recovery was the best way to help myself. If I was positive, so were those around me. I was told several times I wouldn't do this again or I wouldn't do that again. Proved them all wrong and subsequently had a 30+ year career in the military. I have, over the years, been very accident prone, hence my hip replacement was my 22nd general anaesthetic, but on every occasion, no matter how bad the injury, the positivity I learned all those years ago has never let me down.  Can I put that into a shorter form? Yes; chin up, and (both) good feet forward. You are young and can and will achieve soooooooooooo much in your life. Don't let that surgeons work go to waste. Good luck. ---
**Author:** ![nh\_user\_929176](https://community.patient.info/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/n/a3d4f5/32.png) [@nh\_user\_929176](https://community.patient.info/u/nh_user_929176)\ **Post date:** [9 November 2016 22:45 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176/34 "2016-11-09T22:45:23Z")
Hi there Bobbie, i am seeing a psychologist and a psychiatrist I've spoken to them about everything and they can't treat me with medications as that was what first caused my out break of ths Steven Johnson Syndrome. Yes I'm hurting alot mentally and physically i lost and don't know what eles to do I've never been one to give up without a fight but I'm tired of fighting this fight. ---
**Author:** ![nh\_user\_929176](https://community.patient.info/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/n/a3d4f5/32.png) [@nh\_user\_929176](https://community.patient.info/u/nh_user_929176)\ **Post date:** [9 November 2016 23:06 UTC](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176/35 "2016-11-09T23:06:43Z")
Hi there Steve, thank you for telling me your story sounds like you have also been through a lot of health issues I'm so sorry to hear that. I was told that if they they try to repair the nerve damage i would end up in a wheelchair so the nerve stimulator was my only option left and it actually worked i had 100% nerve pain relief but it was only a trial t was so good living with NO nerve pain for 7 days until I got an infection in my spine, I'm recovering now but in more nerve pain mow than before and the thought of living with this pain for another 5mths this pain consumes my life i honestly don't know if i could do this anymore. [Previous page](https://community.patient.info/t/discouraged-depressed-and-many-many-regrets/546176.md?page=1)