What I'm talking about are tendencies like shopping too much (this is my fault), spending too much time online, anything that is done over and above what is expected?
I'm hoping I worded this right because that determines whether or not the discussion is a success or not.
I believe I'm an over achiever in many aspects of my life. When I was younger, I would take care of the house inside and out. I'd take care of the girls; work fulltime; exercise at 5:00 - 7:00 am (walk for an hour of tht time); come home from work, make dinner and get homework done; go to my swim exercise class and from there yoga then home to bed. In between those things, I'd take my one daughter to her cello lessons and my other to her golf lessons. Then after the girls were a bit older, to the ones orchestra practice and the other to her golf outing. To this day, I don't know how I did it. There is a lot I left out merely because this would seemingly be a "brag fest".
After the auto accident I was in, 2005 and 2013, my life changed dramatically. Everything stopped, everything. No more working, disabled. I cannot walk but not like I used to. I can barely walk from the parking lot to the doctors office inside the building. So, I've turned to "shopping". I do over due this and I know I do but it's like the only thing I do have control over. I can't do much of anything. Cannot drive, no exercising; both girls are grown and married so no going to any "concerts" my daughter was in and no more golf outings.
My point is, if you are going through anything remotely similar, please share with me how you've overcome it or what it is that you do in access.
Also, I came down with sarcoidosis of many areas of my body and also sjogrens disease. Both have compromised my immune system and I've become weak and tired most days. Sjorgens has left my eyes a mess. I can barely open them most mornings because they are swollen shut. Anyway, this isn't a "poor me" post, it's just sharing how my life has changed.
Hope you all understand and know this is a good time for you to open up and share what's happening in a negative way in your life. The great part of being on this site is that we are all anonymous and we "should" all be non-judgemental!! (that is key to asking someone to open their heart and share) <<my opinion
Anyway, please share with me bc it will help me find ways to rewind my brain and find ways to stop my habit. It's not that bad but it's bad enough that Ron is stressed a bit about it because it's so out of character of me to do this.
i spend so many weeks asleep and feeling tired that when i get a up week or two i run round like a looney doing loads of stuff .filling my boots so to speak .
then bang back down again .crash .
i dont think theres anything you can do if its your nature to do as soon as you get agood spell you go mental .
i am glad someone does . life is so tough but if you keep trying you never know what you might find out .that could change your life.
iv been looking in to ldn again today and iv found a couple of side effects dizzinness vivid dreams nausea and the inability to sleep ,
i think its proberly because it was desighned for people to come of opiates . the small trials conducted using it on fibro patcients noted up to 30% inprovement in there over all condition with only very minor side effects that nobody found toublesome so i am hoping to discus this with my gp on monday . but i wouldnt have even none about ldn if it wasnt for this forum .
Yes. I study for a degree and that's part of my plan so I can't count that, although I am obssessive about it. I play games online and that's a definite obsession and I watch programmes.
It's basically things to take my mind off how ill and in pain I feel, but I think I was always an obsessive person before ME.
obsessive i most defently have been all my life ,everything in its place a place for everything even things on my dressing table as a teen had to be lined up and leval . same with my clothes all hangers have to face the same way in my wardrope can t share with anyone cant stand it all skirts together etc . same with sleeve lenghts .
house work was done every day everything skirtings doors and frames nets washed every week everything had to be done daily it was all about control i had to have order in my life . it was scary with out it , i am still the same which makes my illness worse because i dont have the energy to cope by doing it all any more
Lined up and level yes! I have to get some kind of order in the chaos. Even playing games I have to do them in a certain order. I'm obsessive about things that don't matter to the point of obsession!
me to hun. all items have to face the same way in my cupboards
and those horrid sticky labels that used to priced gunned on everything had to be all removed took me ages to get them of my shopping .back in the 80s and 90s thank god most places dont use them anymore .
even the soap on the magnectic holder has to point the right way .it makes me so tired ,esp when you live with others who dont get it.
I've been playing online games as well but with my eyesight so poor from sjogrens, I cannot stay on very long, so, that helps from becoming an obsession.
I do also believe I've been and obsessive for a long time, if not forever. I can see a pattern towards this from very early on and when I try to correct the problem, I find something else to obsess over. Geesh, this is exhausting! I've got to find a way to "train" the brain to say NO when it comes to shopping.
*sigh*
Thank you ALL for your input!
I feel better but sorry that you're going through this too.
sorry hun i meant ldn its a drug used in helping people of drink and opiates that has shown promise in helping people with ME and Fibro and MS with much less side effects than the drugs they now use .its over 30yrs old .
proven safe in pregnancy , forums iv read where they have done small studies of it on fibro sufferes have shown good results .
I've been looking into it and basically what it does is that it works as an opiod antagonist, in other words blocking it, and the endorphins, causing the body to create more endorphins for itself.
The inventor of it claims that it tricks the body into making more; reminds me of the hypothesis of homeopathy, which I've found works. Well Aurum muriaticum, or gold helps me to feel more cheerful.
Yes, the trouble is this is how you spell ME - myalgic encephalomyelitis! I can never remember it and I just had to look it up. I had this disease for 10 years, you'd think I'd know how to spell it by now!