What a world we live in hey...
Our daughter went to the doctors this morning, she has been suffering from extreme depression, and quite confussed in her manner, not eating, a history of Kidney issues and infections,late last year collapsed and spent a week in hospital, This she explained to the doctor.
The only thing the doctor said was you are just a little tied and need to rest, my daughter asked the doc would it be ok to bring my mother in so she can explain more, doctors answer was NO i have other patients to see.
It is quite obvious to us as parents our daughter has problems, where do we go from here ?.
My wife and i are at out whits end, not knowing how to deal with our daughter or the surgery..
Its all become to impossible...
Others can probably be more helpful then me but i will suggest a few things , your daughter has some issues that need to be dealt with and the fact that she has understanding parents is great . Is it possible to see an alternative GP in your surgery or are you able to have a word with the receptionist and tell them that you need to have a double appointment - might be worth checking out your surgery website page as i did this earlier as i wanted to see if i could arrange a prescription online ( which i couldn't ) and there was lots of info regarding my surgery which i knew nothing about like being able to booked a double appointment , maybe check out a local Advocacy in your area in which an advocate can speak to your daughters GP on her behalf ( Mind charity recommended one to me when i needed help last year regarding a health matter ) , have you got a local NHS trust as i have also found them very helpful in my pass issues with mental health - HealthWatch , also have you got a community Mental Health Team in your area you could contact ? Thinking of you and your family xx
In a nutshell Anthony , I Would ask , as Is your daughters right , for a Second opinion . Parents are more tuned to their Close family problems and there Is no reason why you Cannot go into a Consultation with her . As she has Suffered / Suffering from a depressive Illness , her Memory and Concentration may not be as Clear . You are Perhaps in a better position , Should She agree . to go into the Surgery / Consultation With her
Try contacting Mind.Org.uk they may be able to help you. Also try the Samaritans as they will at least listen to either you or your daughter and point you in the right direction. Good Luck.
I have some what calmed down now as i was fuming during my first message, ( i am sure a few of you have been there ), So thank you kindly for your replies, very positive.
We are indeed going to make an appointment tomorrow morning and try another GP. Our surgery has made headline news these past few months and have alot of issues with the public.
Trying to get an advanced appointment is near impossible and if one does its mostly a few weeks before you can get in.
I have myself had visits to Mind and Welbeing my experience has been they will not see you unless you have been forwarded by your GP. Although it might well be worth a phone call if nothing works on the next appointment.
Regards.
It is a joke and borderline malpractice, make an urgent appointment and go with your daughter, if you can't get an appointment follow the complsints procedure.
Neil
Thanks Neil.
Update.
Well a visit to the surgery and seen by another doctor today was a totally different experience.
I went along with my daughter to help explain the issues and asked why she had not been offered a blood test.
The doctor was very sympathetic and assured us that all would be looked into. Blood test + an appointment to a Psychologist. He has said to see him again next week for an update after the blood test.
Only issue this time is trying to get an appointment for blood test.
The battle goes on.
That was an unfing useless doctor. They are not all like that. I had good care. Ask to see another doctor or change practices. Your daughter does not deserve to be treated like that.
I used to take my daughter in with me when I saw the doctor. Your daughter is entitled to take her mother in with her, and this helps as you can both then understand what the doctor is advising. Don't give up because of one unfeeling doctor. You can always ask for a double appointment , as given more time your daughter won't feel so pressured.
Thank you Anne.
My daughter felt she would be ok going in on her own, but as the experience went on with the unsympathtic doctor she became lost, asked if her mother could come in as she was just outside, the answer was no as she had other patients to see.
I as her father said that we need to make another appointment with another doctor, this we did. my daughter asked if i would go in with her. I was able to explain my daughters situation completely as i have suffered from similar issues and reckonised symtoms. At least we found a doctor that was prepared to go that step more and show some concern.
As parents which i am sure many of you reckonise , we did feel helpless, with the added fact there seemed to be no compassion towards our daughter from those that are trained.
Thank god for the internet, it does give one a place to express those feelings and find help, as i have always said, "a problem shared is a problem halfed".
Thank you to all.
UPDATE.
Just another issue but much the same with our local surgery.
My daughter has and is still suffering from my first iput above but with the addition she is now preganent and also in a fantastic caring relationship.
This morning she phoned the surgery for the normal phone back from a gp, she receive the phone back, explianing to the doctor she had suffered all night with bad anxiety attack and a urine infection, some thing what she is very aware of.
The doctors responce was; you won't need to come top the surgery just up your dosage of antidepressent and drink plenty of water, bring a urine sample in, in the morning. Having picked me up from the floor i performed a google search and read that anyone who is pregenant should be seen buy a doctor straight away, so as the doctor refused to see our daughter her boy friend took her to the A&E, where they have now admitted her to a hospital bed with treatment.
How can this same doctor make such incredible comments on her medication over the phone and how does this same doctor keep getting away with it..
"How can this same doctor make such incredible comments on her medication over the phone"
Exactly what formal steps have you done to report the behaviour and inform the correct authority of the behaviour?
Why continue with a bad service? Doctors like any service, are at the behest of consumers. Shop around. Would you keep getting the same plumbers to fix your house if they kept flooding your kitchen?
I'm sorry but there's responsibility on people as well as professionals.
with the addition she is now preganent
just up your dosage of antidepressent
Just out of curiosity, which antidepressant does your daughter take?
ted,
At the moment we are not sure what procedure will be taken, but first port of call will be a letter to the surgeries manager. As too they will be receiving a letter from the hospital explaining that the issue with our daughter should have been dealt with the local surgery, most hospitals are turning people away with minor medical problems, my daughter had no choice and did make the right decision.
When one phones in to our surgery, we do not get a choice of doctor, we are allocated a doctor from choice of the doctor who phones back. We cannot walk into any surgery in the area as we are post coded.
All professionals are so called because of there abilities to give the public a good service, which one would have thought a doctor would be capable of doing, in this case the (doctor A) failed badly. We refuse to take the blame for a professional persons lack of commitment.. My daughter wrote a private letter to one of the doctors, (doctor B) from the same surgery, whom she has had a good service from in the past, it was opened by the doctor A and refusing my daughters request, in spite of it being for the attention of doctor B.
I am not sure of the name of the antidepressant as she is not here at the moment, but it had to be one that a pregnant person can take, apposed to the normal one given.