Does this sound like herpes? Please help

I am feeling painful urination, pain in the vagina and anus. I thought it could be a yeast infection so I bought medication for that and it helped a bit. Now I have a small red bump with a white top near my labia. I have never had herpes so I don’t know the signs

Sidenote: I thought I might have caught a bacterial infection from a dirty beach I was in, since I had sex right afterwards and the friction might have caused a tear in my skin.

I have no means to get tested for the next 3 weeks and I’m really worried.

Also, my partner who performed oral has been sick. Terrible flu like symptoms but with inflamed gums and lymph nodes

I really hope you test asap. For you it sounds like it could be  and your partner is displaying common symptoms of an initial outbreak at which time they will be highly contagious

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