Dont understand this anxiety

Mental health
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for the last week I have had anxiety, no depression, waking up at 4- 5 am. not eating.  I had this over 5 yrs ago when my husband died and went into depression etc.  Came out of that and everything was ok.  I own my own house, I have a job, friends and am healthy.  Then out of the blue wham I oculd not stop crying, feeling lonely, not wanting to be in the house or alone.

I think I have started this again as my daughter has just moved out of the home aged 27 she had to fly and I want her too but perhaps that was the point this came on.  Am I making sense.,Both daughter are in this country so I can go and see then.  I like to keep myself on the go and cant seem to enjoy the quiet or peacefulness of my life now.  Any advice would be lovely.

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Hi Joyce, 

Thanks for sharing your story here. It's sounds to me like your anxiety is linked to your emotions and the event of yoru daughter leaving. While you understand on a rational level that she needs to go and continue evolving as a woman, emotionally her leaving could have triggered an unconscious emotion similar to when you husband passed. You could be feeling anxious about being alone and have some underlying abandonment feelings which are making you feel unsettled. As humans, while we can rationalise most things perfectly well, it is our emotions that keep us in the anxiety loop. While you understnad your daughter will be fine, you may have memories being triggered about a loved one leaving (your husband) and that this has stimulated parts of your brain to sense danger about your daughter now leaving because she is a loved one and dear to you. This has triggered an anxiety attack. 

To quietten down the part of your brain which is generating anxiety, I would suggest doing breathing exercises to stimulate your parasympathetic nervous system and vagus nerve. You can find these on google, or message me and I'll try to dig some out. 

I hope this helps but do stay in touch if you continue to feel anxious. 

Best wishes, Elide

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You hav been through a lot emotionally,  I suggest you seek advice from your gp. Good luck

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elide

Message to elide

Thanks for your answer but do you have any advice to help me stop waking up at 4.30 each morning and how to stop this alarm in my brain

Regards Joyce