I wake up everyday full of doom. I can't get excited about anything and have know enthusiasm at all. Does anyone eles that is going through perimenapause feel like this?
Yes, I feel this way most of the time. It’s very hard to get up for work. I went through a phase of crying upon awakening for some months a couple of years ago, too.
Hi wonder what age are you now? Maybe it is time to take a break , go for holiday might help to ease the mood, know it is hard to go through perimenapause , my mum is the same but since she used a female private care her mood swing is getting better, not easy to be a women.
hui
Yes, I have this probably 75% of the time, just going through the motions but nothing seems fun or exciting, not even special foods I used to enjoy as treats. Some days are good. It's got to be peri.
Hi Bev!
Funny you post this as I was going to post something very similar.
it was right along these lines..
More specifically towards morning doom and gloom as i call it.
Ive touched on this before a bit in other posts,
What happens to me and has been happening for months now has been like this:
Im lying in bed, eyes closed, stirring awake, not quite awake even. I come out of dream state to conscious semi awake state, and the 'doom' the 'adrenaline' hits the core of my being, without even a thought process. It is a very physical sensation as well as mental. Its like the feeling of remembering something very important that you forgot to do, or some sort of disaster that may ensue..
This is why iim confused because with anxiety we are thinking thoughts that bring it on. I am not thinking of anything, and its with me every morning upon wakening.
Not having estrogen for sure has affected my moods entirely.
It is day to day for sure, i empathize 1000 times with you all.
A very scary 'not fun' world to live in.
I dont give up though, just keep on keeping on. I think what gets me sometimes is that this never existed in my life, and i took for granted 'normal', to just feel balanced and happy and normal most of the time.
sending support
Thank you Bev for this post
xoxoxo
Mauiblue I feel the EXACT same way you feel!!!!😔😔. Even when I get out of bed, my whole body trembles with anxiety and panic 😔😔. It's so scary and tiring and depressing
This is an excellent description. What is still hard to believe is that we can live like this for years. Somehow, I haven’t gotten used to that idea.
Hi
Pam dear.
Well i guess here on this forum we are allowed to feel 'in a morbid way' happy that someone else experiences similar misery.
Yes i truly understand. I am almost convinced that im not doing something right in my life and its causing this. But i know ive done many things to help myself, and this is what im experiencing.
Im not taking or doing anything to provoke it, its just raw, doom..like a bomb has just gone off and you are in survival mode.
I walk it off after about a half n hour, but anxiety and low mood have become my companions come of late...
the mornings have me really puzzled though. I have it most every morning so ive become accustomed to it.
Yes its SCARY. Its hard not to be scared. How can one get used to something like this is beyond me.
Are you perimeno or going into menopause now..?
Im here for you for sure.
xoxoxo
I wake up exactly like this if my Vit B is low. A few days with supplements and I am better. When I am tested, my V levels come back 'fine.' But there is such a strong cause/effect when I take the supplements!
This started for me in peri too! It was a near suicidal emotional pain. Even though the externals of my life are actually OK.
Hi Bev,
Absolutely! Depression, anxiety, panic, feelings of doom and gloom are incredibly common in perimenopause, and they are absolutely horrible!
You just have to hang on and keep telling yourself that this is a phase. Translation: it will end. In the meantime, reach out for support, love yourself in the best way that you can, and cherish any moments when you feel well.
Sending thoughts of healing your way.
Bev
Hi Liz
Thanks for the compliment! 
As Bev says, it will end and not go on forever. Attitude is also important, all of those things.
During perimenopause i had many aches and pains but now post menopausal, its shifted because im without estrogen basically.
Lots of important things in our bodies dont happen as well when we lose these powerful, and important hormones.
Im guessing from my own intuition i will be going through this for a few more years. I dont think its going to be over any time soon..
I see you have 6 stars! Where do you find yourself now on your journey.?
xoxoxo
Agreed. The ups and downs are horrible. And unfortunately, the downs have resurfaced (after being at a “simmer “ for the past 5 months). Anxiety, depression, morning gloom, etc. Wish I could crawl into a hole and escape. Oh well. Thank god for this group.
Amalie
Yes thank God for this group, my heart goes out to any woman dealing with this at this level.
We are here to help eachother as needed, and its very comforting. If i could wave a wand, our suffering would be GONE.
hey that rhymed?!
xoxoxo
Thank you for all your replies. I just wish I could snap out of these feelings and be myself again. I live in spain moved here a year ago so everyday is like a holiday but I still cannot enjoy it. I never realised that menopause could make us so unhappy 😔
I have been having this feeling of doom when I first wake up on and off for about three months now. It’s unusual for me because I’m naturally a very grateful, chirpy person. I thought it was depression and the doctor wanted to send me to have therapy and put me on antidepressants of course. But this last week it has lifted - like a black cloud moving away. The feeling of peace and contentment is overwhelming. I just hope it lasts.
What I can share with you is what seemed to help for me was activity - even when I felt low, if I played tennis or did some running or fast walking on the treadmill, afterwards I would feel really lifted! Almost on a high! I guess you increase the endorphins this way. It’s the only thing that helped for me - there was no ‘snapping myself out of it’. Worth a try ladies.
Its the doom and gloom and the fuzzy head feeling spaced out like iv constanly got a virus that i cannot handle !!!!!! The achey joints, back pain and breast pain i can just about except.
Hi bev... I can so relate to you as my life became one more symptom after another and just trying to cope with no joy in my life .. It became a battle of 3 years.. .. But lately I have turned a corner. I began to take vitamins religiously and my mood and other symptoms settled.I still get them but not as much. Also sharing here has helped... It's awful when like just becomes a place where we just exist... But hang tight... Are you on hrt or vitamins? .. I take magnesium, Turmeric, vit bde and cod liver oil... I'm also on 2mg of hrt.. It's awful phyologically but for me now, and with the passing of time,My Mood began to lift and symptoms began to be less frequent ... Hang tight... Be patient and kind with yourself.. You are not alone in this.. Hope this helps... CK.
Hi Carol I don't take anything and I'm not on her. I only got told I was in perimenapause in March when I went home to have loads of bloods done. I take it all the vitamins you take are all individual and not an all in one vitamin?
I also take Tumeric, which seems to help. Yet I agree.....this has become the "new normal", which I don't like. Things that help....MINDFULNESS TRAINING AND MEDITATION. Believe it or not, amongst the doom, gloom, anxiety, and irrational "what-ifs"....there is always the "breath" as your anchor. I have subscribed to "Headspace", which has been a god send. I also practice my own version of transcendental meditation. One other source (which I just found) is Eckhart Tolle, who is a sage. Read the Power of Now and "Practicing the Power of Now". I am in the midst of the the latter......and it has been helpful. Nothing is a panacea, however there are times where emotions do indeed seem to "settle". And there are times where things are a mess. Antidepressants have always been helpful to me, as well. Just have to ride out the ebbs and flows. And utilize self care, even if nobody (husbands especially) do not understand. A great free app is Insight Timer, for all types of meditation.
This is not a club you want to be a member if but....... For a long time I woke up with doom and gloom, now lately, it's just been a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. I have to push myself to enjoy anything. I've started going to the gym and that helps. Yesterday a friend asked me out for lunch and I almost didn't go but I did. after lunch we just ended up riding around since is was such a beautiful day. I had a good time, but never felt that complete joy I used to feel. It doesn't help these commercials talking about death. Then at church the youth Pastor that was preaching that day had to tell us about a high school friend(a woman who dropped dead from a heart attack at 39). I had some issues that I was thinking might be heart related(they're not). The health anxiety is THE ABSOLUTE WORST! Every twinge or pain or change in you body is some dread you think is some dread disease. I'm so glad I found this forum so I know I'm not crazy or alone. Week before last was a good week. No doom and gloom, no sick feelings in the tummy in the morning. Then all of a sudden, my face broke out, I had heartburn, sick feeling in tummy, low mood(went home from work one day and just cried). I dream of retirement(in good health and sound mind, and I want the same for my family and friends). Does anyone else find work exhausting mentally? Pretending to be fine, and you just want to get up and walk out?