Finally! The pro-gest cream has helped a little..had a melt down last night told DH I can not do this marriage anymore(5th time I told him I was done) I actually feel like dr Jeckle/Hyde..God, he is used to my melt downs but I know he hurts everytime I say things like this. Sleep is evading again last night 3.5 hours. I have tried aleve pm since the joint pain is bothersome and for one night I did get 8hrs sleep but the next night again taking the aleve pm..not a thing. Have I mentioned that I am 7 months smoke free! I wonder if the chantix halped my mood because after stopping the meds 4 months ago..bam! Life is out of control..anxiety is so bad. No sex life at all, DH has a stressful job also..I have gained 30 lbs and hate myself just trying to get through each day. I pray that this new Dr. Is going to help me figure out WTH is going on with me. Thank you ladies for all the helpful info being shared on this board.
Good luck Testy! Stay strong at your appointment! Write some notes so you do not get sidetracked 😀
Hi Testy...congratulations on being smoke free! Chantix seemed to help with my moods. Good luck with the Dr. appointment. I know how you feel. Please tell us how it goes.
Yes, did a spiral with everything wrote down..amazing how you realise how that many symptoms are related!
Brain fog being one!
Thank you Nancy! I will
Hi I am going through this also . Told my husband I want a divorce then when I came back to my senses worked things out. It's like a roller coaster for me. I can't get nothing done in the house just not motivated and tired all the time. I work part time and that is a struggle. No sex life for 6months now. I worry he's going to go somewhere else. He doesn't understand what I am going through . I have an acvupunter treatment today just so desperate to try anything to get my life back. This is not who I am. You would think they would have something for this phase of our life 5,10 ,yes is way tò long to deal with these symptoms robs us of our life. Sending hugs and if you find anything that works for you let me know. ❤
I too work part time so I have time to do housework but I'm weird because it calms me😁 or reading or lawn work. I am one of those people who can not relax no matter what. My mind never shuts down! I used to drink wine to relax but didn't want to become dependant and couldn't take with the chantix so i quit...maybe that bottle in the fridge is still there.....
I know it's not funny BUT I just had a melt-down too... I was so livid that I told him off and sent a couple emails about what I think. He's got some things to work on too but blames me and expects me to do more and work more hours at work.. I literally can't and need help around the house, I'm not 30 anymore!! Last week I was up 3 nights in a row from 2-5 for whatever reason. And the last few night I've been in bed at 11 but just feel wiped out!! Maybe it's aniexty that is doing this. Also on my period which is SO HEAVY so my sleep is interrupted as well. But I understand why there are so many divorces around this age.
Nope not laughing. With me I am 46 and haven't had a period in 8-9 months. We laughed thinking at least I wouldn't get pregnant...if I only knew what I know now. Wiped out also...no sleep can't even lay down to nap in the afternoon...anyone else that way...I just can't sleep!
Yeah, same here Testy...I get full body fatigue some days...but I do not yawn or sleep! I cannot nap during the day either!
Be careful throwing that word out there. Let me tell you going through this ALONE is awful and meeting somebody new is very difficult . I understand having a man around who is not sympathetic but most men aren’t so ..... from somebody who recently got divorced ... it’s very tough .
Update! Wonderful Dr! She fully understood and because of my symptoms, she beleives I am in full blown menopause. I did go to have blood work done so i will know more by next week. She also had never heard of the pro-gest cream that I had bought and said it might be ok but It seems I am missing the estrogen also. She put me on a low dose of zoloft until labs are back so maybe the anxiety won't be too bad and said it balances you out so no up and down feelings. Will let you ladies know how labs are but at 46 and be in menopause blows my mind. My 17 year old son is also aware if I start acting weird to call dad. Just to be safe.
Lori..I am sorry. Sometimes things come out of my mouth without thinking. I would be lost without him after 24 years.
Yes you would ! Just watch what you say ... I’m here alone with mono 6 months and let me tell you ..... a significant other would be nice right now !
I am so happy you liked your dr! I just saw a new obgyn the other day and liked her very much too! I am 41 and having bad perimenopause symptoms since 40. I am having irregular periods, although lately they are light. I will be starting a low dose combo BCP. My obgyn said creams would not help me for the long term because of my symptoms. Also, I may take 10 years before officially being in menopause. Also, starting medication for migraines and vertigo. Good luck! keep us up to date! 🤗
Menopause and postmenopause sped up the end of my marriage. My spouse masked traumas with alcohol and when I was finally falling completely apart he refused to seek treatment. I meant I was falling apart from the hormone issues and dealing with the alcoholism and I couldn't do both at the same time.Loved him but had to let go.
I'm going to get an appointment with an endocrinologist and hopefully he's not going to say it's all in my head. I do have small multiple benign nodules forming on my thyroid so I guess something is going on even though my thyroid tests have always come back within normal. Almost 10 years since I started this not great part of my life and it is exhausting. I've done HRT and not great fix.
I feel you. It would have been nice if I'd seen it coming but not sure what I could have done to prevent it.
Hi Lori, I am addicted to watching 90 day fiancé. I see so many middle aged women and older chasing around these “ studs” from other countries...that could be their children! I watch it and am sad for them. These are relatively sane looking women, capable of making sound decisions. I honestly think, my god, some of these women have flipped their lids! But, no...they are just lonely. Men choose the 20 year olds because they are obviously trying to regain their youth. The difference is...the women really want that commitment.
Well I’m one of those ! At 49 I had a 24 year old boyfriend for a year ... I know I know too young maybe .
I wasn’t loooking for a boyfriend and it just happened and yes he was stunning ! I just used to look at his beauty 🤣
We had fun for a year but too controlling and jealous.
Now I’m not interested in anybody just don’t have the energy with my illness .
That is awesome Lori! You were a cougar!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lori
I don't think the age gap relationship is that unusual any more and many women I know try out an age gap relationship at least once. I have a friend whose been with her husband over 20 years and they have at least 13 years difference and he's the younger one. Her first husband was not a nice guy.
I don't think age gap relationships are pitiful as long as both treat each other respect, are in agreement if they want casual or serious and that they treat each others as equals. I've been approached with let's do dinner sometime, etc. from younger men occasionally but I haven't taken any of them up on it. I don't do casual well so I don't pursue it. All seemingly nice men. They really might just mean dinner.
The honest truth is by the time we get to 60( I am 57) there are 4 women for every 1 man so either you luck out and find someone in your age group or you have to go younger.