Why do I keep having dreams about my partner cheating and doin it in front of me, the dreams seem so real... back in high school we had a big break up n he started dealing with someone else n I low key went into depression n took it hard we eventually got back together but for a longgggggg time I couldn’t let it go it’s like I hated the girl bc we was cheer sisters n she done me dirty but I finally said I’ll forgive her but I’ll never forget most of my dreams about him cheating be with her but this one today was about a girl I know well is this a sign!? I woke up upset lol
i would also love to know the answer to this as i have dreams of my partner doing this as well or breaking up with me. i think its playing on my deepest fears and doesn't mean that hes actually out there doing it or thinking it. He reassures me all the time how much he loves me because i am always fearing the worst as this current relationship is my longest yet and been hurt a lot in the past like it sounds you have too. I just think it's because my deepest fear is losing him and obviously my brain knows that and likes to play on that when i go to sleep and have things going around in my head.
You basically answered your own question...you are dreaming about it because you had issues back in high school and something in your life is making you feel this way again so your mind is manifesting your insecurities into these dreams. You have to do 2 things, really think about what is going on with your relationship. Is he giving you any real signs he is cheating, is there evidence? If the answer is yes then you have to decide what that means for you. Do you stay with him, do you forgive him and try to work things out? If the answer is no, he is not cheating, there is nothing to prove he is cheating, and it is just old insecurities popping up you have to decide to let them go or let him go. It isn't fair to either one of you to punish him for things you were supposed to have forgiven him for from years ago and it isn't fair to punish him for things he hasn't done or has only done in your dreams. I've been there, done that, it doesn't end well. You have to decide once and for all to let it all go and forgive him completely or else your relationship is probably not going to work out. I would suggest you get some counseling/therapy by yourself and maybe even together. I think having someone to talk to about how you are feeling and how your dreams are making you feel will be helpful. Best of Luck!!!
Their are no signs of him cheating but them dreams seem so real we are in a good place in our relationship actually...I have to let go of the past that’s the only way imma forget about it n prob won’t have anymore dreams
Keandra
Your trust and confidence has taken a real knock, Possibly this is your first serious partner and you are having problems with trust, especially if He had a fling with one of your old best friend.
All I can suggest is that you get assurances from your boyfriend that He will not go off the rails again and that he tells you the truth and remains faithful to you. If this cannot be agreed to you have three options. If He keeps playing the field so can you. If He does it again that is the end of this relationship. The third is stop lying to me.
You can never protect yourself from a thief or lair, MOVE ON.
BOB
She wasn’t my bestfriend we cheered on the same cheering squad and this happen about 9 years ago...I trust him he haven’t gave me a reason not to but these dreams just be seeming too real 😩 our relationship is good he don’t like social media or phones n always around me unless he’s working but that breakup in high school really had me depressed n it don’t seem like I’ve fully let go of it or some but imma let go n let God!
It must have been a traumatic event when your partner cheated on you. When someone does this, it makes you believe that all people are the same. But there are people out there who do honor loyalty and understand the value of a relationship. Traumatic events can be replayed in the mind especially when you are asleep and dreaming. You could be experiencing a post traumatic stress disorder, as being cheated on is a traumatic experience. Some people do not take relationships seriously so it is not a big deal if someone cheats on them. But if you honor loyalty and are a genuine person, this will really affect you. In time you will get over this, allow his act of cheating to be a reminder that he didn't deserve you. Cheaters do not see any value in anyone. The reason for this is usually to do with their own insecurities. Why value someone if you have no value for yourself?