I'm here as my husbands spokeperson as he is to upset at having ED and doesnt know where to turn now.
He has suffered for over 12 years with reasons given by GP's being his diabetes from the age of 40. He is now in his 60's and tried just about everything. He has in the last 2 years had a triple bypass and with the extra medication from this added to his diabetic drugs I'm sure it's not helping (this I keep to myself).
He has had the usual Viagra with it's infamous excruciating headaches, Sildenafil - same headache, Cialis - didnt work and just recently Vitaros which he has used twice with no resulting erection at all.
It's very difficult to see him so dissappointed and I'm sure someone is going to say thats not helping but at this point nothing is.
Would really appreciate some advice on how to help him next as I dont know what to do next. I am really concerned about how it is affecting him mentally - oh yes and I put NO pressure on him whatsoever as I love him regardless.
Hi, Julie, I know how your husband feels, i have tried everything given by the GPs but no good, iv'e been told that its all in the head but i dont think it is, i am 65, very healthy etc, lost my wife 18 months ago and have met someone else but my problem started about 6/7 years ago so its not my late wife's death that is on my mind, i can get a erection ( not fully ) but when i am going to enter it just goes, i have been to see a urologist at the local hospital & she tried me on Muse, i had to try it there, its a applicator that you insert into the end of the penis which doesnt hurt & you eject a minute pellet, you then massage the end of your penis to make sure its dissolved , she then told me to go for a 10 minute walk & within that time i had a solid erection which lasted about a hour so it did work, i have tried it a couple of times at home when on my own to make sure it still worked but it didnt so today i am going to get in touch with a sex psychologist and go from there, your husband would have to see a urologist to obtain Muse , i think you are wonderful to stand by him , the woman i have met says she loves me but if she cant have sex then i'm out, i have given her oral but though she likes it she does not want it, she wants the real thing which isnt helping me but anyway good luck to you both
Thank you so much, I will show him your reply and hopefully will give him some comfort that there is something else. I am more than happy to wait and work with him as I know we will be ok but hate seeing him so depressed.
Thank you again and I hope it all works out for you.