Do any of you just think I've had enough? How much longer will this go on?
I've done everything in human power to try and feel better, lots of excercise, healthy eating, vitamins and suppliments, 2 different types of antidepressants for my anxiety and depression during this, tried changing to a less stressful job.....nothing has made me feel better. I have had periods of feeling good and totally appreciate those times but the moodiness (from being really negative and cranky or wanting to hide in bed and cry) slowly slips back. My self confidence is pretty much gone, I get upset if I have to do silly things out of the ordinary that relies on consintration. My brain does not work like it used to at all.....and I don't feel like going to the doctor anymore to explain all this once again. I started all this at 40 and Im 46 now, sometimes when I read other ladies posts and they are struggling at 55 or older I think OMG I can't do this for another 10 years. This is really messed up my life.
Im a strong woman and have no problem making it through the physical syptoms and even occasionally not sleeping....and can take having a bad day here and there but when it's weeks stretches it's too much. I miss so much having fun and truly laughing.
I know Im not the only one that feels this way and In sorry for coming across negative Im just venting on here as I can't really tell anyone Im close to and they don't understand how it feels at all.
My heart goes out to all you ladies struggling with this....it's not fair 
Yes these symptoms are awful .. I think yours have started quite early. The only people who does understand are the ladies who does have these symptoms! My worse symptoms startdd @ 57, i am 64 now post meno to be honest the only thing that gave me my quality of life back was HRT .. i have not looked back .. Good luck with feeling better .
You said it for all of us...no apologies needed. We understand truly because we can empathize with you, our family members want us to be better and of course they sympathize...but they cannot empathize.
Hugs through cyberspace...keep doing what you're doing for YOU!!
Hi Samantha.... I felt the same way last night. Through the night I felt as if my body was about to give up... Shaking, thurst and anxious and I was fine during the day... The hopelessness with it also was awful. I cried for most of the day. But I find these episodes are getting less... I now know it's hormonal and I wil get throught it. I think sometimes it's a battle of the mind. I try to re focus... And tell myself it will pass. I'm on hrt, all vitamins and been to GP several times... I've now got Ibs and I was a girl who never was ill... But I've accepted it as part of the course now and it's great to know we are all going through simular... Hang tight and know you are not alone. I pray all the time and to be honest.. I'd be lost without it... This change in life is so under estimated. So glad we live in an era of technology so we can talk and share... One day at a time and you will come out the other side..blessings there.. Ck
Samantha,
I am right there with you albeit a little older (52). I have been struggling with this since I turned 48. It hit me like a ton of bricks. Since then, I have endured every physical symptom as well as anxiety and now more recently real depression. I do as the other ladies have said - pray and try to remind myself that this is hormonal but honestly I am overwhelmed and feel defeated. It takes every ounce of energy for me to smile these days. I just want "me" back again. I am terribly tired of having to "get through this". Enough is enough - I understand.
Hi Mars - reading your post made me feel like I wasn’t a freak of nature. It appears everyone is so much younger going thru these menopause symptoms. I am 61 and I will say even though I stopped menstrating when I was 55, symptoms didn’t start ramping up until 3 years ago, this last year being the worst. I just was in ER & have been to Urgent Care too many times to count - I think my female dr thinks I am nuts that my symptoms can be hormone related. I haven’t tried HRT, but my quality of life is so bad that I think I must...when did you go on it & what were some of your main symptoms & what did you go on if you don’t mind - thank you!
Thank you for replying ladies ☺
I just needed to vent. I feel guilty when I complain as if I watch the news there are people that have to live through way worse. My friend told me her theropist told her not to feel so guilty for our thoughts and discount our feelings and feel guilty, they are real to us and if we feel like hell on the inside....those feelings are important to us.
If it goes on too much longer I may rethink HRT, I had a really hard time with my experience with anti depressants, they made me worse so Im hesitant about playing around with HRT as it seems that it takes awhile to get the right one with the right levels...Im single, with 2 sons, one about to go to college. ..all household bills are on me and I already had to switch to a lower paying job to avoid some stress....I can't afford to play around and go the wrong way with HRT right now.
I've had bad stretches before and made it through I'll fight to get through this one.
Believe me I pray.
It was good to vent....I'd love to yell I've had Enough ☺
I hope you ladies feel better soon.
Hello
Gosh I’m so with you on. Could not agree more with your words. Tonight I was thinking exactly the same thing. I’m on holiday in this beautiful place with my family and I just cannot enjoy it. Constantly fighting health anxiety in my head. Never can just lean back and enjoy it. Worried about everything all the time. I’m on bioidentical HRT and it has helped loads but it didn’t switch the worrying off. Today I was worrying that this might never stop and that the old me is gone forever. I started when I was 43, 5 years ago. At that point a gyno said that it was nearly over and just to be patient a little while longer. It has gone on and on and on though. I don’t feel anywhere like getting close to actual menopause. It’s so tiring and frustrating.
HRT made a lot of things better though. Maybe try it! Could help.
Good luck. Somehow we are getting through this. This group helps loads.
I’m so sorry..I feel the same way..currently very achy and exhausted like I’m getting sick but I’m not..just a series of unfortunate peri symptoms on rotation at this point in our lives.. all of this has come seemingly out of the blue for me… I feel great when I turn 40 and beyond and then all the sudden at 45 total misery, anxiety, aches and pains so many other things I never imagined I would have to deal with. At this moment I can just say that I am very grateful that you were all here and then if we must suffer at least we are suffering together… No one wants to hear about in my house as well so I’m so glad you’re all here. Take care.
Hi ladies
Your words and experiences are just like mine. My Peri kicked in big time around 47 (although I didn’t know this ta the time) and now at 53 I feel I’m well into this roller coaster ride.
I’m currently full of muscle , neck and shoulder stiffness that at times wears me down so much I just cry.
I am doing everything recommended. Vitamins, yoga/exercise, drinking lots of water, trying to think positive but I still struggle a lot of the time to keep a smile on my face.
My confidence is so low when I feel really bad and the flushes, dizziness and irritability that kicks in regularly are really difficult to deal with.
I struggle socially and most of the time I just can’t be bothered. So I keep myself to myself and use the time to paint, read and say a few small prayers to keep me sane.
I ache so much to have the old “me” back and grieve for the bounce and zest for life I used to have. I just feel so damn old at times!!!
I know we should be grateful as there is so much sadness and suffering across the world at the moment but as long as we can chat on this forum it does help relieve the sense of struggling on alone.
I send hugs and prayers to all of us ladies going through this and thanks for this fab thread. It’s really captured just how I’m feeling at the moment.
Love xxxx
I was feeling exactly the same! My nightmare started a year ago at 41. After struggling a few months with insomnia, depression, body aches etc I took hrt and I felt like me again! Why we have to struggle with all these nonsense? I’d take everything to feel normal again! I find nothing normal at the menopause and I’m determined to stay on hrt the longer I can.
I feel alone in this and rarely say anything anymore to anyone because if you never experienced it there isn't a point in telling. Plus I don't like to be around people too much as Im so moody, I do well just being kind to my sons.
I don't understand why some woman get very little symptoms and some of us go through hell....I feel like Im being punished for something.
Hope you all have a peaceful day ☺
Hi Samantha I feel just like you , I don't like going out when I'm haveing bad days , just had a bad week of hell with depression and axniaty so went doctor and they have put me on Hrt patches third day . Felt a bit better this morning , then just had anxiety bout . But I'm feeling the same . I started when I was 52 with bad anxiety and doc put me on sertaline which was great but this last 2years have been hell . I'm 58 the end of this month . Oh god I hope this year will be better . But we are all in the same boat I wish all the lady's on this forum all the love in the world , it so hard going though this .♥️
Hi Samantha, if your in perimenopause it's up to 10 years but I went through it up 5 years and had 6 months break until I reach the ending of my periods symptoms came back to bit since then I have been struggling with this damn Anxiety business but what else can you do but wait it out and hope that one morning it will be gone..I think everyone timing is different when my dr told me up to that time I said they same but I'm still here breathing I had a lot scary things in Peri that now has subsided don't want to think about it..and yes still going through other crap I'm taking all in my stride..taking each day as it comes you will be ok, like people tell me all the time it just the way it makes you feel hang on there too.
Hi debra, I seemed to cope well with the menopause but my bad symptoms started around 57 ! I felt all over the place hot sweats anxiety terrible .. not wanting to go out or do anything sociable, couldn't think properly etc! I went the Drs @ 57 & was put on Prempak - C 0.625mg. I took this for 3 years but then the sweats & anxiety came back really bad, so I went back to my GP who put me on Medroxy / Estradiol 2.5/1MG ... I now take 5/2mg the same as I needed a higher dose, to be honest I haven't looked back. I never want to feel like that again!! Came off this twice as was having anaesthetic ... Symptoms back with avengeance just back in my system now ... thank goodness,
HI can I ask your age, and what hormones you are on thanks
Thank you Mars for your response - I am not very well educated about HRT or bio identical - Are the hormone replacement that you are currently on, is it synthetic or compounded? Thank you!
Samantha I often feel like that, just want to jack everything n and walk away. I'm 45 and have had all these rubbish symptoms for 3 years and always just put it down to PMT but they have gradually got worse. I've been to see my Dr and have had the bloods done but everything came back normal, so now I'm in limbo once again. I'm going back to see the Dr because I still feel rubbish.
Hopefully my Dr will sort this out asap and I'm going to try doing some yoga. I listen to a piece of yoga music which I cried to when I first listened to it but now along with some breathing exercises, it does help.
If you want to take a peek, Google Ra Ma Da Sa by Snatum Kaur.
Take care ☺
Hi Lisa,
Ive had blood work done, apparently I'm in perfect health, but it's still best to get it done. I've tried thinking back to figure out if I was moody before turning 40, maybe a bit at times, I think I may have been slightly depressed after my first son, but nothing severe, I think a few times from being a teenager till 40 I got a little too angry and maybe occasionally had anxiety but never clued in it was anxiety.....I probably did have hormal mood changes back then, but it wasn't life affecting....now I'm all over the place....either crying or feeling angry and mean (I'm aware of the angry and mean moods so I just keep my mouth shut) and the being anxious 80 percent of the time is driving me nuts.
I cry over comercials and little stupid things. I've decided I like the crying mood way better than the cranky/mean mood...if that makes any sense at all. I do get a few days of happiness here and there ☺ I can tell it's hormones as I can almost track my moods around my cycles...I never agree to plans anymore as depending on the day I may change my mind....I just want to get off this roller coaster ride or run away or hide somewheres.
I do yoga twice a day, sometimes I'll do it 3 times in one day if I have the day off...it's the only thing I've found that calms me...I figure I'll be the most flexible woman on earth by the time this peri ride is over.
I'll check your suggestion out.
I really hope you enjoyed your yoga session and you feel better.
Thats what I am saying, it isnt fair, but we do have to weather through it. Keep thinking and working on positive changes.