I am 48 years old and lost my daughter 3 years ago and been so different since. My man of 8 years has told me im a bitch and prostitutes are better than me. I feel so worthless and cant pull myself up.
What an awful partner you have You will still be grieving for your daughter and does your partner go to prostitutes as he seems to know "they are better than you" its no wonder you feel the way you do but my lovely you are the better person I know what its like to be put down physically and mentally.I put up with it for years until last year, I was going through the depression and anxiety I have done for years but last year was different I gained strength and fought back. I am a good person, I do have a kind heart and no one will ever put me down again especially my partner and father. you are wonderful as for your partner its his iI insecurities that are his problems not yours. have you sought help for your loss? Im here like many others on this forum to support you and give you the strength this page has been a fantastic help and it has been part of what I am today take care my lovely and come on this forum where you will get genuine support and help and if need be pay a visit to your doc and explain to them whats going on
Hi Cathy - so sorry to read of your situation. It's said that the loss of a child is the greatest pain one can bear. Time is irrelevant when it comes to grief. I'm wondering whether you have had any counselling to help you through that event? If not, it's never too late to deal with it. Is your man the father of that child? I'm also wondering whether the degrading comments from him are a common feature of your relationship? If so, you need to get away from him. You will not gain self confidence if you are having to go home to that sort of treatment. You need to put yourself, your health and your safety first.
I am not surprised!
No one should have to lose their child. I have three children, all adults and the thought of losing one of them is horrendous .
What is the matter with this man? and why are you still with such an obnoxious person. To call you those names means there is something seriously wrong with him. Either he has severe mental health problems, in which case he needs help sooner rather than later. Or he is just a file person. He should be supporting you, whether your daughter was his or not.
You are still grieving from the loss of your daughter and probably always will. Bereavement counselling may help you to try to come to terms with your grief.
You might also benefit from seeing your doctor who may suggest trying an anti depressant.
If it were me, there is no way I could live with anyone who treated me like that. I'd rather be alone and sad than live with a monster like that.
Hi I have to agree with the others you need to get far away from this abusive man. How dare he call you names and treat you so badly. You will learn in time to cope with your poor daughters death but not in such a toxic environment.
Do you have family/friends you can turn to for help? Leave please.