Everything I need to know about herpes???

I have a bunch of questions I need answers to so here they go lol

1.How long does a herpes outbreak last?

2 Is it always painful

3 Do they always start as puss filled bumps?

4 What exactly does herpes look like? because I’ve seen many people post then later so it was confirmed it was NOT herpes

5 Can i get sone pics ? That’s NOT on google.

6 . Do they always blister or do they just fade away over time ?

7 . How does it start out ?

8 How do you live your life knowing you have a incurable disease? Do you still have sex?

9 How do you come out to your partner ?