The title of the post says it all....I am mum,wife daughter, sister, aunty, friend, employer....I'm not me any more. I miss being me.
I am there for everyone all the time Without fail, I have my own personal problems and just feel suffocated sometimes. I am stressed all the time there is no let up and I feel like I'm going to crack.
When does it get easier.
Loulou
Life never gets any easier, some people like you seem to be approached by all and sundry to sort problems and help with family concerns.
People who are very suppotive can have problems relating to others concerns and this understandably wears people like you down.
You need to be strong and able to deal with your concerns You have needs and your family members need t understand you sometimes need a shoulder to rest your head upon and explain your life problems.
You can sggest, people are more understanding toward your needs, and consider your concerns. You need to stand your ground and know when to walk away from your chattering family masses. You need to be firm and kind at the same time
You could go and see your GP regards your mood, some CBT MAY HELP.
However I wonder if medication would really help as this situation as you know what has to be done and need to take the bull by the horns
BOB
well you have giventhe answer yourself, you just have to be selfish. I am a lot of those thingstoo and I think you must be proud of it , it would be worse to just be single and alone you are you your are the you you have become as a result of things like that, you are harking back to something you were but people change. Be more selfish ad be amum and a daughter the others are more peripheral and you treat people according to thier importance in the hierachy, that would release you to be yourself. You cant be a saint, are you looking for a plce after life so to speak? it will et easier but you have to make it, maybe you need to be a bit cruel to make your lot better but which is worse that or cracking up?