fed up with life
Hi Paul
A lot of us here can identify with you. Fighting illness makes you battle fatigued. But hold on to the absolute fact that better days are coming. What's been happening with you to make you feel so low?
This site is amazing and so many of us with different experiences hopefully we can offer some advice
Stay strong
God bless
Lorraine x
my beloved gf who i lost this may her daughter is trying to turn my son's back on me
Hi Paul
I am so sorry to hear that. Do you mind me asking how old your son is. Is he old enough to understand what's going on? Does she have custody of your son? Sounds like you are having a dreadful time Paul but you are always going to be his dad and the bond cannot be destroyed that easily if at all. Are you able to spend time with you son? Sorry so many questions but just trying to understand what you are going through.
Lorraine xx
he is 13 years old and he lives with me
Hi Paul
I imagine the strain on you must be heavy and you are still grieving for your gf. Your son will always love you and maybe you should limit the time he spends with your gf daughter. You have enough on your plate to deal with and your son doesn't need to be exposed to her negativity. His age can be difficult for him too and due to his body changing he may say things that he really doesn't mean. Have you got a good support network that can maybe speak to your son. Importantly is there someone you can lean on whilst you are going through such a difficult period in your life? You and your son will get through this Paul and trust me your his dad he will always love you.
I'm here if it helps in anyway
God bless you and your son
Lorraine
Hello Paul, Stay strong you have done well so far. Your son loves you as you do him. Are you still going to Woodlands for counselling? You are good at giving others advice now take your own advice. Keep talking here whenever you need to.
Elizabeth.
its when my gf family phones to take my son out they phone my gf daughter up and it dose my head in they should phone me
Agh Paul I'm so sorry you're in this place again.
Please try and remind yourself of all of the things everyone on here has told you, and also know that your son loves you very much and if you feel your girlfriend's family are crossing too far over the line, you have every right to limit the time they spend with your son.
Stay strong my lovely, you're doing a great job.
Just keep on going.
Thinking of you xxxx
ok i will try but i am think of putting him in socal care sorry for saying that
You don't have to be sorry for THINKING that, but please don't DO that.
There's so many steps before you reach that drastic stage you know.
You can ask for more help and support.
But mainly, give yourself some time!
It hasn't even been half a year since you lost your girlfriend, you're still at such the most raw, difficult stages; you really do not need to put yourself under so much pressure at the moment.
Equally in such states of grief you should not make big, life changing decisions.
Just continue to take care of your son and yourself to the best of your ability.
Take some time to heal.
Sending you lots of love xxx
i lost my antie last night she past away so i need time for myself to get better in myself first
Hi Paul you must think about your son before yourself. How do you think the poor lad would feel being put into care? He has lost his mother, now he might lose his dad too! Is that fair on him? He is the one you need to be concentrating on and making him as happy as possible.
On the other hand if you don't want too why not let your sister have him? Do you want that? x
Paul this is going to sound harsh, so forgive me.
Sometimes you have to put your children first.
Sometimes life is utterly rubbish but you have to focus on other people's needs, no matter how much you are suffering.
I know it's difficult, sometimes impossible, but please try and focus on his needs.
I hope you're ok xxx
Paul PLEASE LISTEN TO ME. First off you'r son is your main priority he is your flesh and blood no one can take that away. He may be 13 but he still needs you and always will. You only lost your girldfiend months ago you are still grieving give yourself time your lad lost his mum. Too. Your both grieving be strong You have to think of your child HE is your PRIORTY not your gf family!!! Be strong buddy. We are all here for you.
thank you for your support
ok i will do sorry
i want to put my son in care
Paul I second what Michelle above has said please be there for your son , he needs you, you must put him first. As I have explained before to you I have been there and had 2 small children. I put my children before myself, I had to they needed me. I went through hell, so I know how It feels. You will get through this believe me.
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