Sorry to moan, feel pretty low today, waiting on date for op, in pain, given morphine. But feel as if every day life is getting me down! Feel as I've no support from my partner ( we live apart) my flat is damp and mouldy, and on the first floor so dreading the stairs after op!
Again sorry to moan, but I just feel all alone!
I know there are people worse off than me,
Thanks for listening
Linzi xx
So sorry linzi, good you can say it though, much better than keeping it inside, I always write notes when I feel down to get whatever off my chest. There are quite a few helplines that you can call and chat to, again not necessarily to get help but just someone to listen to you.
Moan to me anytime you like Linzi.
Veronica
I am not surprised you feel miserable!! I think we are allowed to feel miserable in this situation, because it is life in suspension, and being in pain and not being able to enjoy life is quite miserable especially when we see friends and others doing all of the things we would love to do. But it really won't be forever, you will soon be on the road to a better life and happier times, they are just around the corner.
It is quite lonely because no one really knows how it feels, people care, but it not quite the same as going through a life experience. One day you can help others whom have trodden the same solitary path ~ and you come out the other hand.
Do you have anyone to help you after the operation? First floor with no help I think is going to be tricky. Do you have a friend you can call this evening, they can perhaps bring over a bottle of wine (not sure if that works with morphine) best to check, and have supper and a good cry and share some of your worries. Linzi I have felt quite sad too in the last few weeks, I ended up making a list of all the things I could still do. It helped me immensley. Although we can't run a marathon or walk anywhere, if the pain is under control we can have picnics (with a chair that we can get in and out of) go to the cinema, theatre, sit in the garden etc. I know I am probably making you feel worse suggesting things when you really don't feel like being positive, but I promise you any one of these things would help you feel happier.
If you are renting call the landlord and ask him to come and fix the issues. Or if you have parents that are sitll here who are kind and helpful, maybe it is time to go home for a bit for some tlc.
So sorry you are feeling down, but you have all of us on the forum, we are your friends. Absolutely you are definitely not on your own.
I don't live with my partner either and he was also a little light in the support dept. But since I've had the surgery he's really stepped up to the plate!
I am going on 7 weeks post op and doing fairly well.
It might really be a good idea to stay with somebody for the first 2 weeks or so since you will have pain from the surgery or have somebody stay with you.
I still don't travel the stairs yet but am hoping that that will come soon.
Good luck to you!
Hi Linzi you are entitled to feel low pain, is a downer and if you are stuck in bad accommodation that doesn't help. With the issue of mould and damp whoever is your landlord has a duty to fix it. It is very bad for health. If it is mainly from condensation a unit that extracts air and recycles it can be installed in lofts or if no loft their is another version. Can't think what it's called at the mo but I had one installed in a bungalow with extreme mould and condensation it got rid of it within days and never came back. Cost of light bulb to run and is automatically operated. Cost about 500. Small price for landlord to pay for keeping the property in good condition. It will cost a lot more to rectify if left. When you do get your hip done you will get your life back. You just have to go a number of steps to come out the other end. You will be taught how to use stairs before leaving hospital. Carry on reading the forum when you do have questions it's very helpful. Take care and you are not alone lots of caring people on here. Though not the same as face to face contact we do understand.
Hi Linzh I can only tell you what happened to me. I was in horrific pain in both hips like you it gets you down. All the other stuff on top will make it worse pet.
I woke from my total hip op, and that awful pain had gone, just some soreness but not the gut draining pain I had before.
Not everyone has pain after the op, I could manage the stairs better than before the op. There is another site you can go on called bonesmart, I got lots of advice about recovery and aids I would need at home on that site.
Do you have someone who can shop for you, or can you do this on line for a few weeks? Take all your worries and list them on here, those of us who have gone through it will answer them in turn, as you cross them off and get ready you will feel better. I hope this helps take care
Hi linz. You have every right to feel low. We all do at some stage. I had m,y left hip done almost 5 weeks ago and I need my right hip doing as well. My right hip has become so bad now I can hardley support myself. As for partners. Mine does try his best but he is still not very good at the support. When I was in hospital he never visited all my hospital appointments are all on my own. I tell him what happened and he just does not seem interested. So I know how you feel. I have had plenty of issues and even told my surgon with little sucsess. Things will change when I have my right hip done. There are some things I will refuse to do because of my experience this time.. But you are allowed low dayts. I promise it will get better and the low days will still happen but less often. 
Hi Linzh
Sorry to hear you are feeling so down. I see others Have suggested some practical things so all I can really do is send you a virtual hug. Could you take a short break away somewhere? The only other thing I can think of is to phone your surgeon's secretary and tell her you're not coping and can she give you a date - even if its weeks away at least you'll see an end coming.
Try and stay strong
Rosie xxxx
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That is a great suggestion Rosie ~ I think calling the drs secretary and telling them about your situation may speed things along. They may prioritise your case. I hope you are okay....tomorrow is a new day and hopefully you will feel a little brighter. Big hugs x
Hi Linzi I will pm you with the name of the company and phone no to give to your landlord . Cant post on reply it will get taken down.
Hi Linzi ... love reading all the supportive comments ... I have not much to add but know how you feel -- I live alone and eventhough friends are understanding,, they really cannot know of your feelings ... some just don't know how to show support, usually the ones closest to you - I allow myself pity-parties once in a while - I am 9 weeks pot-op and still have them !!!!
good thing you talked to your landlord - They will only discharge you when you are able to do the stairs ...so don;t worry about it right now -
as said before: come back here and moan away, love !!! warm hug
My partner, who I don't live with, was pretty rubbish leading up to my op, but has been pretty good since (only talking 11 days though...)
I live in a house and have been surprised how ok the stairs have been. Coming down being easier. Confidence has been my main problem.
While we know there are others worse off, what is happening to us matters. I'm sorry you're feeling low. The waiting is so difficult.
My very best wishes.
It's easier said than done to say keep your chin up all I can suggest is for you to keep on at the consultants Secretary and point out that you would be happy to take a cancellation other than that is to get onto your own doctor