Hi.. my partner has GAD. He’s a very vocal person and also very anxious and worried person. The smallest decision needs to be discussed.. and he is always worried about things that can go wrong.
Sometimes I feel like I’m his therapist.. and he’s mentioned that too. He tells me absolutely everything and I’m his safe person.
Is it bad to feel like you’re your partner therapist? Has anyone else who has a partner with GAD found that they feel that way?
Or does anyone work gad/anxiety have any thoughts or experiences?
The reason I ask is that I don’t want it to be detrimental on our relationship...
Thank you x
Hello
If your Partner is not getting any CBT you are been used as a sounding board because He must feel very unsure of Himself
I have not had any CBT now for quite a while, I am married over thirty years and we make decisions both together in fact I generally do as I am told. He must trust you given that, trust in a relationship is really needed.
All I can suggest is sit down and discuss boundaries, however if you are entering a serious relationship this may just be your Partner feels at peace with you, so you need to consider what your needs are. Would you prefer to have someone who told you nothing what was going on and where He had been ?
Only you knows your needs and your expectations that you would expect in a close relationship. Over time you would most probably find you will begin to know each other very well and will understand each others needs before opening your mouths
Good Luck, marriage and relationships work better when both are singing from the same music sheet
BOB
Hiya, I understand what you are saying but if you think about it, if your boyfriend didn't have "Gad" then he would still confide in you regarding his fears and concerns etc. Because he is you boyfriend. Also, how many clients sleep with their therapist??? So no, I don't think so. Donna xxx