hi, i'm annie. my problem has been going on for a little while now. i simply feel sad. when i'm around family, i'm fine, but i know it's not going to last. it's like every thing makes me sad. i'm oversleeping, and i completely stopped caring about what i look like. for example, i used to have to change my clothes everyday, but now i can wear the same outfit and not give a s**t. also, keep in mind that i'm only 14, i'm homeschooled, and have zero friends. and i have anxiety, which i have been professionally diagnosed with.
this probably doesn't make any sense, but please help me out.
Hi Annie, please tell someone in your family keep talking. What does your family say? Are they supportive. I'm not a doctor but you may need medicine or the correct medicine. Please don't isolate yourself. Life is hard. But "this too shall pas" you can feel better. Keep us posted. Best of luck to you. Reach out to me any time !
Don't take medicine. Nothing is wrong with you. Just embrace the feeling, it will pass. It's ok to feel however you feel, you may wear whatever you like, you can talk to whoever you like, you can sleep as much as you/it needs. From what I read nothing is wrong with you, just go with the flow. And let us know how it feels after some time.
sorry things are not great we all go thru lots of bad times and you are also at an age that so many things change
every day should have a little thing in it that makes us smile but not always I feel down most days but I know that I have to get on with it being adult you some times don't have the ability to ignor the world I was home schooled had no friends lived in the bush nearest neighbour 5miles away so I know about being isolated its not a good thing maybe tomorrow you could start by brushing your hair and putting on a clean set of cloths .
Annie, can I ask why you are homeschooled? Is it because of your anxiety? Is there a possibility of you going to a normal school, to be around other kids your age? That's very important, especially when you are so young and going through the teen years.
Have you had a chat with anyone to find out the reasons for you feeling sad? is there anyone close that you trust enough to chat to? Does it bother you that you are home schooled? Would you prefer to be in a mainstream school where you may make many friends and mingle with people your own age?
My main advice would be to keep talking and not keep your feelings hidden. Lots of people will care for you and if you want strangers to listen then please message anyone on here or even keep posting in the thread.
yes, because of my anxiety issues. i have no clue if its a possibility. also, i've been to public school before, but i got pulled out couple years ago.
Hi Annie, I assume it was your parent's took you out of school because of your anxiety then? Were there specific problems for you at school? And did they think that would make everything better? If so, then they were very naive. I don't think it was right of them to isolate you like that. No-body does well when isolated.
The fact that you feel sad and are caring less about your appearance suggests that you are also depressed, not just anxious anymore. This is what often happens, that one leads to the other. I honestly think you need to speak to a GP. You are not going to be able to manage these issues on your own. I'm so sorry your immediate family does not understand. Is there another adult you trust that you can speak to in confidence? I suppose you could go to the doctor on your own but it would really help if you had support from an adult. Or perhaps you can google adolescent support groups in your area. Here in the UK there are many organisations set up to especially help young people with mental illnesses. You could contact them directly yourself and set up a meeting. I know that might seem daunting to do on your own, especially when you already feel anxious, but that is the whole point of them being there, to help young people in crisis.
You need someone to talk to Annie. Someone who is going to listen and support you and get you the right help. It would be best if that was your parents of course, so try again to explain to them, but if they don't listen then please have a good think about where and who you could turn to next. Please let us all know how you are doing.
It's her parents, or closest environment that triggered the anxiety fool. And she is asking from help here, don't send her elsewhere, she can feel the love, care and wisdom through the internet too, if you got any to give anyway.
She is fuc**** 14, she has no depression, no anxiety, she's been told smth is wrong with her while probably it's her parents and social environment that suffer from the s**t.
Annie, follow your inner guidance system, trust whoever you feel you can trust, talk to whoever you want to, do whatever makes you happy, joyful, going outside on the sun, singing, listening to music, reading, whatever makes you feel better. And do not worry we are here for you.
Oh my god....how completely rude. Who the hell do you think you are to speak to anyone on here like that? And what experience do you have by the way?? Because I have plenty. Plenty plenty. I am 42, have suffered with anxiety and depression since childhood and have a 17 year old daughter who also suffers the same. I have an awful lot of life experience when it come to such things. I realise she is 14. But that does not make her problems any less real, believe me. She is obviously suffering. I did not receive ANY help at her age and my god that made my life difficult. Please do not comment if you do not understand depression or anxiety. And please grow up.
Hi Annie. Please read the reply from mar:34228. Fourteen is an age at which kids are experiencing significant life changes. Fitting in, being accepted, peer and media pressures regarding what you should do, what you should wear, how you should look etc. Teenage years can be brutal. But Annie from your post you are showing some of the signs and symptoms related to depression. Diagnosis and appropriate treatment requires medical support. So please access a physician as soon as possible. Mental Health illness (challenges) can occur at any age. Often having a diagnosis results in stigma and the people you need support from may deny the diagnosis, believe it's just a phase or normal teenagers to feel this way, or tell you to think happy thoughts, smile and everything will be fine.
Many people who have not experienced a mental health challenge are unable to understand your personal experience. A peer support group is an excellent suggestion. You will be with others (not isolated and suffering alone), the group members will understand and will accept you without judgement, having a peer support group is part of effective treatment and management of a mental health challenge. If you are hesitant to discuss this with your family, your health care provider can arrange a meeting to discuss concerns and provide education so that they are able to support you. There may also be a support group for family members/loved ones to attend which will help them to have some understanding and to be able to provide you optimal support.
Your post is heartbreaking Annie. Please don't dismiss what you are experiencing. It is real, many have replied with good suggestions (not all are advisable at this time). I was first diagnosed at age 8, first suicide attempt at age 12, and first hospitalization at age 14. What you are experiencing isn't going to suddenly stop. You need medical assessment which will help determine what is needed to best help you at this time. Many replies are posted by people who are concerned and care about you. It may be very dark, tortuous, and frightening for you but help is available. Blessings and Love to you Annie! ❤️❤️🌈🌈
So you effectively transferred your fears to your daughter havent you? is it nice to have someone fear and panic with you? especially younger, powerless to her mother creature ? is it empowering to know how much experience you have, how much you have suffered, does that make you a better person? are you now fitting the mould? do you want to weigh our experiences? do you want to be the greater martyr?
I really don't think this is the place to have an argument, but as you wish. No actually, I have not transferred my own 'fears' as you call them on to my daughter. You are assuming an awful lot about our lives. She grew up with a father who it turns out has narcissitic personality disorder. She has had a very 'disturbed' life due to his actions. There are other things too, but that is none of your business. And no, I do not enjoy her suffering. I have done all in my power to help her and she is recovering. I love her and she is the most fantastic person. I am so proud of her. I do everything I can to support her and encourage her and allow her to make her own life choices and live her own life. And I do not sit and dwell on my own problems, I am actively trying to overcome them. You have no idea of what has passed in my life. I am in no way a martyr and have no wish to be either! You have actually made me laugh with your ridiculous comments! And I do have to wonder where all your venom comes from? You appear to be bitter. Or if not bitter, then extremely judgemental. And being judgemental is not what people who are deeply suffering from mental illness need. They need deep understanding and care. Two things which I see you are severely lacking.
And no, I sincerely hope I will never meet such a deeply ugly (I'm talking on the inside) person as you.
hey, I'm sorry that you went through that at such a young age, and thank you for the suggestions, i really wanna find myself again, i really want to be happy again. it's just hard. everything lately seems so bleak. but, anyway, thanks.
my parents didn't pull me out, my mom did. she moved in with her ex a couple years ago, and i'm pretty sure that's when all this started. also i really hope you're right.
Unless you are a psychiatrist and have treated her you have no clue if she needs meds. I agree meds are not always the answer. However they saved my sons life and I'm not talking about narcotics. Something that evens out his levels and did not want to hurt himself.