Don't know what has just come over me. I am nearly 8 weeks
post . Operation on second tkr and have managed to stop all
my pain meds. I got up put some washing out and because it's
a lovely sunny day decided to go shopping and then have a sit
out in the sun this afternoon. However something just came over
me quite unexpectedly and I started to cry. What is happening?
I feel that only the people on here understand exactly what we
have gone through and don't feel that I can talk to my family
because they think that I am doing so well and now should be
back to normal. I wish people on here lived nearby and we could
meet up because some days I feel so lonely. I don't give off this
impression but I think it's the shock of the operation and trying
to get on with things. Anyway must pull myself together and
put on my coping face. Does anyone else feel like this? X
Felt like it many times just after key hole surgery not a big op like yours. Just have a good old cry and you will feel better even if it happens again it's natural but some people don't understand. People say the anisectic status in your system for up to a year and can make you feel like crying sometimes . Take care and cry if you want. Keep smiling though 😜👍 Bev x
Ohhhh bless you joan the way ur feeling is normal I swear ive never had as many down days as ive had since my TNR which was 5.3.15. its up and down like a roller coaster??? its still early days for you and tom you will feel totally different I bet??? Sometimes I dont no how my partner has put up with me?? ive cried ranted and said some awful swear word's lol. Try treat yourself this aft sit in tgr sun with a nice cuppa and have some chocolate lol. Ive just put some shorts on and thats made me fed up my knee looks sooo bad lol but then I thought ohhhh buggar it no ones gonna see it in my garden anyway lol. You keep your chin up!!!x x
I feel exctly the same, I carry on regardless but inside I feel crap. Could burst into tears but hold back, I presume this is such major surgery our whole body and even minds are re adjusting, I'm five weeks now and desperate to feel normal. I'm doing all that has been asked of me, so I know nothing is wrong just need to hang on in There and keep writing our blogs, I hope you feel better soon, but you are not alone, jackie
Oh yes - I have done it many times, even now but not as often (19 weeks) - it's normal and I have seen it a lot on here - if you scroll or search you will see it. I even went to the GP as its so unlike me and I didnt know about post op periods of depression being quite normal. Accept it as apr tof the healing process, do as much as youlike and move on - it really is healing. Not been good for the bags under my eyes though - had to resort to cold teaspoon to shrink them one morning I cried so much and was goig to work in the afternoon. Funny too hwo it ocme out of the blue for seemingly no reason. As we all know on here, however, there is a reason - our bodies hae been intefered with and our brain knows it and is upset.
Joan I'm exactly the same. I'm 16 weeks post now and need further surgery to straighten. I always knew mine would be more complicated because of the state of my leg (I'm only 36 too). But at no point did I ever expect it to be like this.
My first 'episode' was at about 6 weeks when I thought I would put the dinner on (I'm living with my mum at the moment, too much of a struggle alone so thought I'd help out). I think I chopped half a pepper and then felt like my world was ending because I couldn't stand up any longer (I didn't know I needed further surgery at the time). I was a sobbing wreck when my mum came home.
I then hit my lowest point last week when I was told by my consultants secretary that he had a 5 month waiting list (when he'd told me I need my surgery within 12 weeks).
I don't like to go on at family and friends as I think they must be fed up of hearing it sometimes as much as I am sick of hearing myself. I wonder what I ever spoke about before this bloody thing?
I can't go back to work yet and I'm lucky I can work from home but it takes as much of a toll mentally as it does physically. I don't expect anyone who hasn't been through it to understand. I was driven in to my office yesterday for a few hours (my leg was twice the size afterwards but that's my fault for not doing my exercises) and all everyone kept saying to me was 'I didn't expect you to look so well'. I could tell they were wondering why I was still off. I resorted to flashing my scar at one point which is great shock value I've found (I'm still walking with two crutches too so it's not like I'm skipping everywhere).
Mine is just a waiting game now. Which feels like Groundhog Day for me. The tears flow regularly so I know exactly how you feel. If you ever need to get it off your chest, just come on here. I'm on it regularly and wake every day at 4am!! It is a shame we all live all over the place, I think a cuppa and a catch up would do us all good. (I'm in the North West of England).
Just remember you're not alone though.
Kath xx
I know exactly how you feel Joan. I'm 4 months tkr and now back to work full time and I think everyone thinks that's it - bang back to normal!!! There is no way that I feel back to normal if I ever will be and yes like the rest of us I seem to be in tears for no apparent reason. It would be good if we could arrange a get together somewhere just to meet up compare our stories and have a good laugh cry and plenty of drinks!! In the meantime have a bloody good cry and then get out in the sun!! 😢😢😢☀️☀️☀️☀️😎😎😎 xxx
are you workin today clarkey lol
I'm in the north too. Just outside Manchester.x Thanks for your reply JUst been shopping and spoke to a neighbour and found
out he had been going for chemo for cancer so that put my
little moans into perspective and made me feelguilty
I'm with everyone on this. I'm not normally a "cryer' but boy have I shed some tears, used ALL the swear words I know, and even made a few up. Yesterday I went on this forum to complain that my other knee is now playing up, and its still the same today. Fortunately, I'm seeing my consultant this afternoon about my operated knee. I'm 11 weeks in and can't understand why it's so stiff, but I do have muscles not working after wearing a knee support for last 11 years, and I also have fibromyalgia.......and menopausal! I might ask consultant if he'd be prepared to do my other knee too - am I mad or has the sun got to my head today. I just long for NORMALITY! I've also put weight on.........so am now keeping more than one chin up lol!
Keep smiling everyone!
Joan, I just flat out tell people it's been a very emotionally difficult year. I'm also menopausal, so I'm all sorts of out of whack. No one know who they are going to bump into when we are together. We have to laugh about it and just accept that we are going through a lot. And then...laugh. I'd guess you folks in the UK would have an easier time of getting together than some of the rest of us. But maybe it's easier to be real with each other online. At any rate, I'm glad there is at least this site to help me not feel like a complete nut case. A dear friend of mine just had her first knee replaced. I keep telling her about this group and she says, "Why bother, I have you!" Ha!
Let us know how you go on at the Consultant Pam???
I can relate big time. I had bilateral TKR's 14 weeks ago. I became very depressed 4-5 weeks post op. It is finally starting to lift. It has been the rare day that my husband did not find me in tears. My PCP gave a low dose antidepressant, because I had also lost it of weight. I am doing better, but this depression took me by surprise. I have learned that is is common after major surgery. Also, pain does a number on an individual. So get some help if need be. You are not alone in how your feeling.
Hi. I'm 3 weeks post TKR and I keep bursting into tears for what seems like no reason. I had a good half day yesterday and then it turned worse and In the evening I sobbed more times to my husband and son. They just seem to come from nowhere, but when they do, I can't stop them! But I'm not worried as I have read on here that many other people feel it too.
Don't feel guilty Joan. You're allowed to feel out of sorts with everything you've been through but at least you're able to see the 'it could be worse' part now. I bet you wouldn't of felt like that earlier when you were at your lowest.
I actually work in Manchester (live in Runcorn and had my surgery in Liverpool, I pretty much tour the entire North West) so we can always arrange a catch up one day. I just can't drive that far yet 😠
Keep going. Well done on getting out today xx
Suddenly life makes another turn and it's hard for the brain and body to make this adjustment. All of your hard work, pain and suffering is paying off. You are no longer a "cripple" and have to funtion in the real world and you are just trying to separate the feelings of joy, apprehension and maybe the fear of the unknown. I'm sure it will pass as just another phase but if it hangs on a quick visit to your doc would be in order. A good professional will help you work through it in a short Tom. Congratulations on your recovery and being able to get on with life
I wonder if it has something to do with stopping the pain meds? Were you on tramadol, or co codamol, or something similar??? if so, you should reduce the intake gradually, as these are opiate type drugs, and habit forming, even at quite low doses. that would account for sudden tearfuness, irritibility, restless leg syndrome, diarrhoea, etc etc. . . I tried to stop 'cold turkey' and it was a disaster. . had to do it gradually, over a couple of weeks . . . If not that, then it's probably just reaction to all the change in life, the trauma of the ope etc. . . Hope you feel better!
ohhh thats a bumber when the weather is sooo nice x
I was on paracetamol and just cut them down then stopped.
I want to be able to have a little drink in the garden with my
husband at weekend. I don't drink much but felt like I needed
something .x