Feeling lost and like this isn't getting any easier

Sexual health
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I got diagnosed with herpes roughly 7 months ago, while that truly was the worst pain I'd ever felt my on going symptoms have topped the first out break by far. I'v been prescribed Lovir400mg and 500mg but with little result and have started taking Lysine and a supplement with a bunch of stuff in and using natural bees wax soap, still little to no relief .

I'v only had one month with no symptoms, I knew this std was a nasty one and incurable but I never thought it was going to be this bad.

I feel disgusting in myself and honestly don't know if people would accept me if they new.

I've also started getting them on my legs which I didn't even know was possible .

Can any one shed some light on this because I really don't know what to do.

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I was diagnosed with it a few weeks ago, and yes it was very painful and uncomfortable. At first I was misdiagnosed with a bladder infection. But I kept getting worse, ulcers, swollen lymph nodes, fever, chills, so i knew something wasn't right. i was then diagnosed with the herpes simplex virus. they put me on anti-virals (some generic version of valtrex) and after i finished them, i felt like the infection was coming back.

my doctor said i was still healing and put me on the anti-virals again, for ten days. it's been 3 and a half weeks since my initial outbreak, and i'm still not quite right. thankfully the pain is gone, i'm just still uncomfortable. but i do feel like i'm slowly getting better. I just didn't think it would take this long.

i've done a lot of research and apparently the first outbreak is the worse, and usually the more outbreaks you have, the less severe and shorter lasting they are, and as time goes on, the amount of recurrences lessens.

You should not feel bad about having this. When I first found out I had it, I was really concerned too. But it's actually not as bad as people make it out to be. Yes it is painful, and people make it seem like this "bad" disease. but really, it's the same virus that causes cold sores, doesn't matter if you have type 1 or 2, either one can show on the lips, genitals, and even the eyes. it's a virus, it spreads.

They says it's incurable, but all they mean by that is it remains dormant in your body. it lives in the spine. it doesn't mean your going to have recurring outbreaks. it's like the chicken pox. once you have the chicken pox, the virus stays in your body but is also dormant, meaning you may or may not get another outbreak of the chicken pox, or shingles.

I hope this helps. It's not the worse thing in the world. You can live with it, it just sucks sometimes, but there are medications to help when you need them. Your definitely not alone. Many people have this virus, whether it be type 1 or 2, it doesn't matter. Another thing I found interesting is that about 80% of people who have herpes don't even know they have it because they are asymptomatic (no symptoms) or they have very mild symptoms. Well, I hope this helped a bit. You can get through it.

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I only just found your comment.

Thank you so much, this forum has certainly helped me.

Since posting this I've had a shift in thought towards this disease and truly think it has helped.

I'm have less out breaks, but most of all feeling better about myself which does help the outbreaks from happening so often.

I stopped taking the prescribed medicine and am taking vitamins instead.

I think this topic needs to be talked about more and not have such a massive stigma attached to it, being as common as it is and I never even got informed about it in school. Sigh.

Thank you again for commenting, I wish I had seen it sooner.

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Hi sarah, I noticed it's been a couple of months since your comment and wanted to see how things was going for you. I was diagnosed six months ago and have experienced at least seven outbreaks since. It's got me really down. I can't think about anything else I'm only 24 but i feel like my life is over. Did it get better for you? What vitamins are you taking? I guess I'm hoping time will make this better, thank you xx

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Hey sarah,

I was currley diagnosed with HSV two weeks before my 20th bday. I felt disgusted with myself as well. I felt that no one would ever want to be with me, that my goals of having a husband and family would never happen. But you cant look at it in a negative way. I know easier said then done.. but you will eventually accept it and instead of having all those negative feelings you will come to peace with it. Just because you have HSV does not change your self-value. Who cares what other people think about you. Were all human and we live in a dirty world, litterly. In order for others to accept it you have to accpet it first and be a peace with it. Once you do it will get better. HSV is one of the most common STDs known. 

You said your starting to have them on your legs..which your possibly got from saving.. HSV is contracted through sex, an open wound, or having touched the infection and not cleaning your hands and turning around and touching any mucous membrane. HSV can also be contracted from simply using the bathroom in a public facility. I am currtenly finishing my second year of college.. in which my studies specalize in the diagnosing, treating, ect. of diseases. My recent exam was on Herpies and other stds. If you have any other questions feel free to ask me I will help you as much as possible.

 

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Hi Courtney, for some reason I don't get notified when someones commented.

I'm still having out breaks quite regulary, but I'm at a place where I'm not angry or upset just dealing with it as it comes.

I'm taking a mixed multi with echinacha as the main vitamin and then a 500mg lyseen vitamin.

This site has been the main thing that has helped me, even still none of my closest friends know still too ashamed, I told my mum because I knew she would be supportive but yeah I really still havent accepted it fully.

I sympathise with your struggle and it does get easier, 

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hi not sure what you can do all new to this to just took a test for herpies and i have it to feels like my world has come to a end its still developing so got knows how it will go