Hello. I’ll keep this brief. (Beforehand, I’ll mention that I am underage, so if I’m not supposed to post this here or should do so elsewhere, let me know.) I am sixteen years old, and female. I’ve suffered with anxiety and depression for nearly five years now, and at the start of it all, I developed a serious masturbation problem. (For clarity, the mental disorders’ symptoms came before the masturbation addiction). I was around eleven when I discovered online pornography, specifically drawn porn. I rarely came across “real-life” porn due to how I discovered this form: I found a video game I liked, looked it up, and (unsurprisingly, as I now know), there was porn of it. Without going into too much detail, I was in my room constantly, and would even give myself headaches from doing it so much. I was in a constant state of confusion as a result. Everything seemed sexual to me, due not only to the nature of the pornography (which sexualized everything), but also my misunderstanding of how sex worked due to this unhealthy exposure. After nearly four years of this, I finally realized this was wrong, and quit masturbating for a few months, but, of course, the depression and anxiety stayed. Eventually I started doing it again (much less frequently, less than once every two weeks-a month) in a desperate attempt to relax my mind, and it wasn’t nearly as bad... Until, as I was so conditioned into overdoing it, I’d always end up doing it until the confusion returned. What I need to know is this: Is this confused feeling normal for someone who’s gone through something similar, and how can I prevent the confused feeling in case I do decide to have a relationship in the future? Thank you very much. Again, if I should find somewhere else to post this and take this down, by all means, let me know.
Hi Madson, Look not being a trick cyclist, I think you was just lonely and found a very nice friend, see masturbation is having sex with the best friend your ever know, but I think you now need a way out of your depression and anxiety, so first I want you to google depression and meditation and it covers anxiety, have a good read up on it, but see if you can find a local group to teach you the art of meditation, its something that once you have learnt who your have it for life.
Now if your on meds, once you get it working for you can see your doctor tell him/her what your now doing and you want to be weaned off your drugs, could take about 6 months but your be back in a drug free world, all thanks to meditation and a new life, perhaps then your begin to enjoy your masturbation a lot better and the orgasms that comes with it, google dodson and ross your find it a very interesting site, lots of help with masturbation and how to orgasm better and a whole lot more, its not a porn site lets just say its a very good sex ed site, all those sexual questions you have been afraid to ask, you find all the answer there.
You can join and post to Dr Betty Dodson she is a great lady and gives some great answers, her topics are done in the way of letters to Betty and her very straight answers.
Do hope you find all the help you want, and good luck.
My dear anyone can ask question all we can do is try. I'm going to speak to you like I did my daughter. She would come to me with anything. First you need to get off that game and find something else. What they do in it is not real sex. Sex is suppose to be between 2 people that are in love. I was broth up different then most Sex was very important to me. I told he to wait until see was 18 to get into sex. It not a free for all and it will not be the same without some feeling for that person. I did not go into the just of sex that was my wife place. Her mother told here every thing that see needing too. And we told her that if she has any question ask us. We were very open with her and her 2 brothers. Your 16 and you are learning how your body work. If you can talk with your mother and tell her what is going on. If you can. Please get off that game. It is not worth playing it if it's going to mess up your brain. Take care Ken
You should never feel ashamed for masterbating. It’s your body, you are discovering yourself and it’s completely normal. Most teenage girls don’t talk about it because it’s “embarassing”. I’ve been masterbating since I was 5. Trust me I felt super guilty when I was 13-14 and eventually stopped for a little. I had to do it every night or I couldn’t sleep.
It’s your teenage hormones. It’s 100% normal. Porn isn’t real. Porn is made up fantasy scenes. Real sex is nothing like what porn shows.
Now as for your depression and anxiety, I recommend seeing a doctor for that. They can put you on medication to make you feel better.
You’re not weird or different at all. Literally every teenage girl does it.