I haven't left my home in 3 weeks I'm on Valium 20mg and 50mg of Zoloft. My legs are weak and anxiety overcomes me. I'm so depressed I can't even drive anymore. This is going on and off for 3 years. I have so much stress at home with my spouse and kids. I can't sleep but 3-4 hours a night. I sometimes think bad thoughts about ending it all but my son needs me. My wife and 2 step kids would be ok but my son is special needs and he doesn't get treated the same as the other two. The stress is overwhelming. I've tried talking to my wife and how she talks to me like I'm a child and how gruff she is with my son but I think it goes in one ear and out the other. She's bi polar not on meds and won't go on them. Any advice I feel so alone?
"Aj "- It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see why you are depressed and anxious both! You have a bi-polar wife who won't take her medications and huge stress from a special needs child and the other children! If I were taking both 20 mg of Valium a day AND Zoloft I would be tired and want to crawl into a hole also.
have you received any sort of professional counseling from a psychologist or MSW who knows cognitive and behavioral therapy and can help you in the way that has been proven to work, especially for anxiety - versus just having some shrink push depressants and anti-depressant pills on you which have all kinds of side effects - depression, fatigue, and suicidal thoughts being some of them?? I'd be looking for a new doctor if it were me. These kinds of problems can be solved - although if your wife will not comply and take her pills that is another issue you need to talk over with someone or you'll have a lot of stress as long as you are around her. Check out a psychologist who specializes in working with people who have anxiety and depression. If the pills were going to work they would have worked LONG before now! Don't you think? I have been in a very similar situation as you, and I got over it all without medications, once I found a good therapist/counselor and worked with them. Good luck.
so sorry to hear all your problems, it is very hard for you,you must try to get your wife to see about her bi polar condition, it must be awful for her to, its also awful that she does not treat your son in a fair way, but if she is ill, thats the reason, if she wont get help, go and tell the doctor how all this stres is affecting you and your sons life, there must be something that can be done for you, dont put up with it any longer for your sanitys sake, take care.
AJ, - I agree with Queen70128 also regarding your kids and how your wife treats them. If need be for their sake and yours you can force her to have a 72 hour in- patient evaluation and they can put her back on medications and if she continues to hurt them and you, you can get further help so she is not endangering them by her unstable and abusive behaviors! Do it for the kids AND for yourself!
If your live is so dire and you are stuck in the house with such a negative mood.
I would suggest that if this is the case you telephone 111 and ask to be moved for your own safety. The problems you have however are a with your wife who is also BI-POLAR and children. Under that situation I would hope you make an appointment with your GP and both you and your wife go intogether and discuss both your condition. I am also concerned with regards your family, and both conditions
Can you at least make and attend an appointment with your GP, you will need to make a double appointment so you can discuss your fears and condition
What sort of treatment on top of your medication are you attending and is your Special needs Son also attending any schooling ?
It is also very important that your wife takes any medication that has been prescribed. Is your Wife having any form of external treatment at this time ?
Are you been seen by Social Services that can give your household any help ?
I would suggest the very least you make that appointment and see your GP.
Hopefully she will go with you
BOB