Hi ladies!
I feel like I'm slowly dying, anxiety through the roof everyday! Every ache and pain (and believe you me there's a lot) is some type of cancer! I don't even mention it to friends as they will think I'm nuts! Doctor just looks at me when I list my ailments, I'm 46, had two periods when coil was removed then nothing for 10 months......answer is maybe your at the start of your menopause and that was the end of the discussion!!! Dizzy beyond belief, no energy, bloated, stabbing stomach ache, muscles ache like I've done a marathon gym session even though I've sat for hours, anxiety is making me smoke heavily which in turn makes me more anxious, skin is like sandpaper, dry eyes, nose, burning sensation in mouth, the list is endless! Feel like a hypochondriac! Force myself to go to work as I feel more sane there as it keeps my mind busy but I'm that busy all I can feel is my heart thumping in my chest and the anxiety about that kicks in! the moment I'm home I collapse with exhaustion and then the head starts playing games! Oh and the sweats! There always a joy!!!!.........really cannot see light at the end of this horrible dark tunnel
There is a light at the end of that tunnel. It is horrible, I know! It is not that you're dying...it is that everything about you is changing so fast that it is overwhelming. I seem to have come out the other end for a breather the last year and a half...but I am terrified of it ever coming back after my periods finally stop. So far I am having my periods like clockwork although they are shorter these days. My periods were never regular before my peri years...go figure. I know it is hard to just embrace the change...but I think it helps when we do. Hope you see the light soon. I know it is a terrible ride.
Hi dennymo, welcome! You are in the right place...this forum is wonderful. Yes, to everything...especially the fatigue a d dizziness and health anxiety. Last year, i raced around to so many drs and ER visits only to be told there’s nothing medically wrong with me. Get your basic tests done...but if this came out of nowhere...like me....it’s your hormones playing games.
I'm right there with you Dennymo! My symptoms change day to day. Some days its muscle aches the next its stomach issues..the list goes on and on. No matter what issue I'm having my anxiety goes to work on them and the worry wheel begins to spin! I try to keep bust during the day and that seems to help. Mornings and nights are my worst! I try to remind myself of the wierdness I felt when I was going through puberty..This feels a touch worse, but similar! I guess the hormones were at work back then too! I've been to my doctor for everything from Lipomas to panic attacks. I'm quite certain she thinks I'm crazy! Hang in there girl!! Hopefully we will all be feeling like our old selves again in no time!
Oh I really hope so jo! It's just the worst, even when I'm sitting talking to people I can feel random aches and go automatically into panic mode! I'm so jealous of friends the same age that are looking forward to nights out/holidays when I can't think of anything worse......hopefully this is the worst it gets! Good luck to you to x
Hi Denny I’m the same, I call myself Mrs Doom and Gloom I always fear something is going to happen to me . I fear if I go out I will collapse as I never feel right when out shopping or visiting friends . Is it my heart today or the pains in my shoulder or the stomach ache ... my husband is nearly off his head with me as I’m always ill. I feel sorry for him as I’m not the person I was was this time last year , not one of my friends or family have have gone through this oh did I mention the anxiety /panic attacks have to be the worse .
Keep going /keep posting 💕
Hey!
I'm 46 also and feel exactly the same... I feel so jealous of friends who are sailing through life happily and I feel exhausted, physically and emotionally plus before I went on HRT I ached sooooooo much and I had no strength! I started to need two hands to lift the kettle, pull the handbrake on etc... 😰
HRT has helped but I'm still very tired and feel generally off colour.
I mourn my 20's and 30's!!!
Hang in there - you're really not alone. 🙋🏼
AJ. xx
Wow you just described me everything you just put on this post was me at age 47 I'm now 53 and those symptoms were horrible they have gotten better I too like you learn to breathe through the belly now the anxiety was horrible and it still comes and goes the dry eyes the dry nose the stomach spasms aching joints burning mouth tongue my ears irritates me more now my allergies flared through the roof now I have now developed bursitis in my shoulder and when it flares up my wrist hurts my elbows my shoulder I work two jobs and I think that's the only thing that keeps me sane because I'm constantly moving at both keeps my mind off of thinking other things hopefully one day all of this everything will be behind us
Ladies please help. Last your I started to get health anxiety out of no where. Then bad sinuses stomach cramps and aches and spasms ibs full of gas and bloated. I will be 41 in November my periods we're always normal til last year I was late one month 4 days the next month it was a wee and was like that a few months. Now they come on time but are extremely heavy I get bad anxiety heart palpitations over whelming feeling of dread. I have had many test done on heart and blood work doc said heart is fine and other than being a little anemic I'm healthy but this damn anxiety and panic attaks are the worst. I brought up pre menapauae to my GP and he said I'm to young yet like I said I'll be 41 in November. Are any of my symptoms a sign if Peri should I make a appointment with gyno to have testing done. I just feel like I'm going crazy and my poor husband doesn't no what to do for me. Thanks sorry was so long. I hope we all get relief soon
I agree. This time is horrible. I am now 51, and things began to "churn" about 2 years ago. Over the past year, I have learned to "deal" with the horrible anxiety, intrusive thoughts, and doom and gloom. Some weeks are relatively good. Others are not. Meditation, mindfulness, and therapy have helped. And keeping busy. But I can feel good for 2 months.....and than "whoosh".......the "crap" returns". I am in one of those times now, as we speak. Ugh. However, my meditations, certain books, breathing, podcasts, and talking to you ladies does help. The lows do not feel as low........
Well I admire you for making it to work ! Many women have had to give up their jobs and personally I don’t work but going through this for 3 months I literally could not function and could definitely not hold down a job .
All the little things like dry eye sweats are minor compared to the dark moods fatigue and depression . Boy is that part tough !
Hi Jo67532..where were your lipomas located? I have puffiness in my chest area and thats what my friend said it could be. She's an ultrasound tech.
Hi Renee, I am 41 and peri started for me last year. Got a clean bill of health, yet felt miserable. I’ve been told I’m too young too. Wrong. You know your body. Our hormones change constantly, so it is hard to test...but it is a good start. I’ve tested out post meno several times...yet I still get periods...irregular though. Chart your periods and bring it into your dr. Peri can go on for upwards of 10 years. You are officially in menopause when 12 mo go by without any periods. I think some drs do not acknowledge perimenopause.
I crashed at 41 ! Just walking down the street and bad panic attack and from then on I went literally crazy !! I could not leave the house for months very dark thoughts and literally lost my mind. all drs said it was PTSD after a bad accident but now I’m seeing it was Peri .
I leveled out but never became my old self due to the panic anxiety so that’s 10 years of it . Now at 52 I’ve crashed again so get your hormones checked and if anything maybe go on a low dose birth control pill. You don’t want to go through the next 10 years like this .
Your hormones are just flying everywhere. They will settle down. You will still have up and down days. I still have terrible health anxiety, and low moods. But no more hot flashes, dry eyes etc. But still taking an antidepressant and Valium for the rough patches. ((((hugs))))
Yes, I read somewhere that 15 percent of women have to leave their jobs during peri and menopause. That number would be higher if more women could afford it. But when you are single like me and you have bills to pay, you just have to pray and drag yourself into work.
I dream of retiring. I am getting through the days at work by the grace of God.
Hi Mary27278! My lipomas are in my left thigh. I started with one about 2 years ago and now there is another one. They are quite small and I'm only bothered by them every once in awhile.. thinking about them does get my anxiety going at times,but other than that they are tolerable.
I'm the only one of my friends going through this. I asked my mom if she ever felt this way and she told me that she had some hot flashes and sometimes she got the blues, but could make herself feel better by just going for a walk or a drive. I think sometimes googling my symptoms actually makes me feel worse, but i can never go very long without doing it!
Hi Juanita.
What antidepressant do you take and how do you feel on it?
Hi you say the pain /aches that’s what I’m struggling with just now, shoulder pain and lower arm pain . Takes me to hold my shopping bags or even hand bag. Always feel better or can handle the pain better when I know it’s just another symptom. Been through the anxiety which always lingers and panic attacks . What an awful stage of life for us all . I feel my husband is in his prime just now , he’s looking great feeling great and watching his diet and fitness but I can’t keep up I’m always tired or having some issue with my health .
Thanks 💕