hi everyone! so after dealing with this disease for 3 months, i have finally stepped back into the dating world. i disclosed for the very first time this weekend, and guess what, he didn't reject me. In fact he was appreciative of my honesty and said it will take more than that to scare him off. he didnt treat me like i was dirty and in fact still cuddled me, kissed me all the same. we havent had sex yet but i think we will soon. it is such a weight off my shoulders to see that someone does still find me attractive. i would have never been able to live with myself if i had not disclosed then ended up giving it to him. i take suppressive therapy and we will use condoms. im mainly posting this to show things do get better after a herpes diagnosis!! even though its hard you should always disclose so someone has a choice
so happy for you! there are people out there that will love you no matter what!
I was nervous with the disclosure as well. I had just gotten back into dating after a 20-plus year marriage when I found out that I had GHSV-1. The first girl I started seeing after the diagnosis had pretty much the same reaction - she took it in stride. She acknowledged that she was aware that it was a very common thing and that it wouldn’t affect her decision to see me. We’ve been dating for well over a year now.
I take daily suppression and we no longer use protection. Unlike GHSV-2, GHSV-1 does not have a high incidence of recurrence. I’ve only experienced one possible outbreak since the original diagnosis. I say possible outbreak since it was a minor sore and it came on the heels of my manscaping. We refrained from having sex for a few days after it healed. We have been together now for well over a year and she has not caught the virus…