Hi ladies, I think the one subject which has obsessed my mind lately is how much I worry about how I won't be able to cope when parents for example pass on in life. On how I could have achieved more in my life and how guilty I feel about any hurt I've caused family members. Does anyone else had these thoughts since the menopause I mean? Donna x
Don't know if it's hormones or just getting older. I am constantly worried about staying healthy. I have a disabled son and worry about who will care for him when I'm gone. I worry about being alone. Wish I could calm down,and just enjoy life.
I just pretty much worry about everything, to the point of obsession.
I worry about health, I worry about things being completed.
I worry that I have said the wrong things. It never ends.
I have been on this forum many times, I seem to have all the symptoms menopause brings.
I'm like that Donna I'm fearful of anything I can't control. I worry about parents getting older my son my husband my health it's constant and all since peri started x
Oh yes ! I worry about my cat .... she’s my life and is about 14-15 ... she is all I have . I worry about my mom if I’ll end up homeless it’s never ending ! also keep thinking wish I could turn the clock back ... do things differently be better educated about meno and Peri .....
Absolutely. My dad passed away several years ago, a few months before I was born. My mom lives alone and she is older...and lives a couple hours away...I constantly worry. I have 2 living brothers and , 2 deceased. I have a disabled child and I constantly think about his future. Thank goodness, I have my older child, to take care of him when we pass on. I am happy and grateful for what I’ve achieved thus far. I’ve always been a worry wart 😊
Yes definitely! I have always been a worrier and it's even worse now. I worry about the future, job/financial security and being homeless also, it's exhausting! 😩
I worry too! I’ve always been a worrier, but the last year has been the worst. Idk if it’s because my youngest is about to go off on her own in college or if it’s the hormones! It’s really been a struggle lately, because of every little ache or pain.. sends my anxiety into overdrive!
Worry about everything. But pray about it because the Bible tells us that worry will not add one day to our lives. It shortens it, because it stresses us out. Then I worry about that😂😂😂😂😂
We’re worrying about things that haven’t happened yet .... it’s not healthy and think of everybody in this world .... if we all worried about what is to come that isn’t so pleasant nobody would have a good day ... ever. So cross that bridge when we come to it .
For now we al have to focus on getting stable emotionally .
I have always been a worrier, and now it borders on obsessive (at times). Irrational fears. So difficult to stop the cycle, once it starts. It can be paralyzing. To me, this is the absolute worst part of peri.
Yes, I worry about my parents.. Dad is 80 BUT do not see him at this age.. Its just so sad that he is 80!! Why can't he be 55 or 60 again? My mom is close to 80 and doing well but still I get sad when I think about them not being here!! They are slowly cleaning out their house and every now and then dad tells me what he wants when he dies.. One time, I was bawling like a baby!! But now I just hold it together and change the subject quickly. And yes, I could've achieved more in my life too. And seeing all my nieces and nephews striving for all this degrees and positions making great $$$--I should be happy but it gets me down because I should've done that!! I just feel stupid at times..
Thank god I am not alone with these irrational fears. Why is it a struggle to “stay in the moment”?
I know, right? I just bought the current issue of Time magazine...the headline? Mindfulness...
I'm ready to try any and everything to stay present and live in the moment!!
Donna, oh yes and i cry thinking about this loads. TBH i cry loads anyway re regrets etc. My parents are both alive but, my dad has early dementia and i so worry. I have started kissing them when i leave their house which, is not me. I dont know if its hormones or getting older but, it is very sad. x
Thanks for your reply Amanda. I already have depression and anxiety. Have done for many years. Its as though my depression flared up again since the menopause. I think my tend to think quite morbidly at the best of times. Past couple of days I've had a bug or virus, and I'm just in tears all the time. Just feel down, probably run down. I can always rely on myself to put myself down and wish and hope that I could become emotionally stronger but I just Can't. Oh well...Donna xxx
I read somewhere that 87 percent of the stuff we worry about never happens. Then I think it's the 13 percent that'll get us 😂😂😂😂😂
Which is not true either.
Women are natural born worriers, so we try to cover all the bases and worry about everything 🙄😖😫
I think its our brains changing, after all this whole thing is a remaking of ourselves..its a whole transformation from head to toe.
I worry a LOT as well, to the point where i remind myself how negative an nonproductive it is and hard on me. to be in your head just worrying for nothing..makes absolutely no sense to me in my rational mind.
But there i am, lying in bed thinking about all of the what ifs could ifs how ifs, why ifss..uh oh i did that, uh oh he ssaid that to me, Oh no i forgot todo this, oh no what are my boys going to do if i die?
Really just nonsense. We dont have control over any any of it at all.
We can only do our best every day..
No plans here for me, just a day to day experience, i enjoy my boys smile, their jokes, their asking me for help, im here for them, and when i get better i will be there for me too..its all i got
so yes im with you Donna
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I've worried my whole life about things like this. I don't believe it has anything to do with menopause causing it; maybe just makes it worse. I'm well past menopause and I worry about my husband all the time.
It used to be that I worried about my parents passing. Now it's been 20+ years. You get through it. If anything happens to me husband, I will be alone. I fear that.
As far as things said/done in the past - we all have done things like that and there is no need to dwell on that!
Donna,
Yes. Since starting this menopause thing - I am experiencing all new emotions that were never there before! It's been SO hard. I am reminiscing on when my Dad was alive and crying and missing him and wanting to tell him I'm so sorry if I caused him hurt etc. Then I've been worrying non stop - health, the future, my kids, my husband. This all felt like it came out of nowhere for me. Not sure what others have experienced - but along with a LOT of physical meno symptoms - these new worries are so hard. My husband keeps reminding me it's my hormones as he can see I'm talking about things and worrying about things - and this is all new. Then my latest is - the worry of; is this my new normal? Am I going to come out of this stage at some point?????