Found out my partner has herpes after he kept it from me for a year !!!!

Sexual health
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So my partner and i split lst year and in that break for 5 months the caught herpes, and he decided he didnt want to tell me untill a couple o weeks ago !!!

Im still trying to come to terms with the fact he lied to me for a year and took my choice away from me oh did i mention wed been having unprotected sex the whole time 😡

I have never shown no obvious symptoms of catcing it off him and have now got a private blood test on friday to try and find out if ive caught it for my piece of kind because i feel like im living in limbo at the moment, im too embarrassed to tell anyone as i feel ashamed and slightly foolish

Im struggling to eat or sleep right now and am hoping that this blood test can put my mind at ease my whole lworld has come crashing down in front of me as weve been together 4 years and was making serious plans for our future but j can forgive him for putting me at risk and for keeping something like this from me let alone him taking my choice as a human being as to weather i wanted to sleep with him or not , im fairly understanding and i could ov worked throught it with him

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Just know that you are entitled to feel the way you feel. Keep us updated with your test result. We are here for you. I was just diagnosed last week and things are starting to get better for me. 

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Thank you so much for youre support , its nice to know im not alone and have people to chat 2 and get stuff off my chest

Will post my results nxt week when i get them its gona b a long few day for me

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The medical community does not think it's big deal. They do not screen anyone for it, so they do not think it's important that people know or disclose they have it. So first of all, understand that this is not nearly the major issue you feel it is. If it is important everyone know prior to sex whether their partner has herpes, so they can choose to reject them to avoid it, then everyone should be screened and know and disclose their status.