Freaking out

Hello All,

About 18 weeks ago I had unprotected sex with a man I didn't know The status. After sex, I freaked out because it was while I was drunk. I don't remember anything. & if I was sober it wouldn't of happened. I feel it wasn't consensual. I actually know it wasn't consensual. The last thing I remember was asking him his status, he assured me he was clean. The next day I asked him to take an oraquick test and he denied it. He told me he had just been to the doctor a week ago, and he was okay. Something didn't trust him, maybe because he wasn't someone I wanted to sleep with in the firs t place so again I asked why he wouldn't take the test. And he told me to just trust him everything was ok. A couple days go by and I went to the ER because I had feel feeling my nodes and thought they were swelling. Doctors told me they weren't but noticed my heasrt rate was high and I was just freaking out. I've been touching my nodes since then & it's day 18. 2 weeks after I texted him again begging him to send me results of a test to help ease my mind a little and to my surprise he did this time. It was a antigen test. Fourth generation. Non reactive. Calmed me down for a little. The date the test was taken aligned with the time he said he had been to the doctor as well. So now, I'm still freaking out. I'm constantly looking at my tounge which seems a little white, not thrush but a little white. I have a lot of phlegm in my throat. No sore throat tho. Just can't clear it. No fever. No outbreaks, everytime I feel something in my arms I feel it's my nodes in my arm pit swelling but nothing there. I'm constantly touching the node on my neck which isn't sore but I swear it's swollen. I took an oraquick test Tuesday which was 16 days after potential exposure and of course came back negative.

Am I overthinking by a long shot or is it logical to be the way I am being?

I think you need to calm down.  Being anxious/ stressed can make you feel unwell and manifest in many symptoms. Just have std tests to rule everything out.  The majority of stds are treatable very easily. 

But swollen nodes (if they even are, it might just be you being over anxious ) can be caused by many things.   Which std are you worrying about the most? As if it’s hiv then the symptoms for that doesn’t always show. And are so general for most common ailements.  So try and chill and just get tested to ease your mind.  

All the best  

Hi lovely 

I think you’re over worrying about it definitely. 

Thrush from HIV would definitely not start after 16 days it’s more a result of a weakened immune system and opportunistic infection, so seriously wipe that from your mind. I would go take another test at 4 weeks which is pretty accurate then another at 3 months just to be sure. 

That’s the best way! But seriously if he’s negative, there’s absolutely no way you could have caught it anyway - as he wouldn’t have it. 

The mind is a powerful thing but it can be very mean. Try to relax sounds like you’re fine to me xxx

If you're getting so drunk you have no idea what you're doing, at least have a sober friend around to keep you from doing stupid things.

He was supposed to be the friend.