Generalised Anxiety Disorder and Relationship

Hello everyone,

So i have a anxiety disorder for almost 2 years now and I have surfert from mental abuse (mostly!) for 8 years. I’m a 19 years old guy. 

I fight and struggle against the anxiety everyday and sometimes I think really hard about the future. I’m a very insecure person, but only for my personality not my lookings. I stopped school and work sadly I couldnt keep it because of my anxiety disorder.  I also think i have ADD because I am really chaotic, live inside my head and got the feeling that my thoughts are so intense that i cant focus on them. In my family there are people who got add btw. 

I closed myself for actually all my life from contact of girls. Ive got enough attention in the past but due the fact i have a anxiety disorder i think i look really repulsive. I dont dare to talk to girls because i am really ashame because of my anxiety disorder and I think my life is a big mess. This makes me really unhappy, because my friends go on with their lifes and i stand still for 2 years. My first thought is to first get a job and school and after that to look further. But at the moment its to much to start with school and work again, because my anxiety is too high. I feel so unhappy...

Pls can somebody give me advise how to go further with my life? I got therapy for a psychologist for a year now and i take fluoxetine, but i got the feeling i stand still. Btw if something isnt clear or written correctly let me know because english isnt my first language. 

Thx in advance

Hi Coto,

Your English is great!...

You need to understand what is happening here and retake control.

Anxiety is cruel and silently takes over lives and temporarily screws them up if left unmanaged.

Anxiety needs future time to survive, e.g. we may get anxious about a hospital appointment (in the future) and fear the worst may happen (but it almost certainly wont)

You need to try and draw your thoughts to the present moment (Mindfulness), when you master this your mind will focus more and more on the present moment and less and less on the future.

Try meditation to ground and focus your mind.

You will regain control of your mind, how long that takes is up to you..

I will leave you with this quote..

'Mental Illness is like being sat in a prison but you always have the key to get out with you'

Good Luck