Hi All,
Came by this site wilst looking up Citalopram on net.
My partner has been on these meds(20mgs Started on 10mgs) for about 4-5 months to my shame never thought about them before just thought they were pick me ups as she said she feels down some days.
We're going through a really bad time at the moment(talking about splitting up and moving out) when we go out together it always ends in an arguement usally due to her drinking as she has no stop button and then she changes to nasty and sometimes violent. We are at the point where last night she went out without me and stayed round her sisters but she cant remember much. With been together for 3 years and love each other dearly and it hurts me to see her like this and the worst is feeling so helpless and just want to make things right.
I have agreed to give her space and move out for a couple of weeks but all she seems to want to do is go out drinking with sister.She only has these problems when drinking wine.
My condition of moving out was to try and sort things out between us and go to relate for counciling.
Ive read quite a few threads on the site and just maybe need to get this off my chest and talk but also i want to know can these meds be causing some of the problems and also an insight to how bad is she if she's taking 20mgs a day.
She normal takes 1 tablet in the morning but had run out this morning but did not seem overly worried and said she'd sort it out.
Im forty something and wish you all happy lives.
M
Hi
Like a lot of tablets alchol and medication do not mix. I have had the odd drink while being on citalopram, but not the amounts you say your girlfriend is drinking. 20mgs is a low dose. If she is still feeling down then she maybe using drink as another way of giving her a lift. If this is the case then maybe she needs to go back to her g.p and discuss increasing the dose. I can see that it is difficult for you as you feel helpless, but all you can do is give her your support. Has anything happened in your girlfriends life that maybe causing her to feel low or maybe something that has happened in the past maybe troubling her.
If you need anyone to chat to get in touch.
hope this has given you some ideas.
madmouse
Thanks for the reply madmouse,
I feel bad at the moment because i probably never realised she was in such a bad place and needed anti deps. having read alot of posts trying to get a feel for what she's been going through, she has a five year old daughter from a previous relationship the guy cheated on her and it took alot from me to convince her i was not going to do the same( lost all my friends as i never went out on my own for two years) ironically i feel i cant trust her when she stays out all night when i quiz her she gets angry when all i neeed is reassurance. i dont know how to talk to her about the meds she gets angry if i talk about the drink feel im losing her. we just cant seem to have fun together anymore. i'd do anything just to see her smile and laugh with me again.
Hi
It is difficult for someone to understand what depression sufferers are going through. I think it's great that you are trying to understand what your girlfrfiend is going through. when it comes to asking about her meds, can you do it on lines of, how she thinks it is going. how about going out to a favourite restaurant, just the two of you, it might just get the two of you back on track. A nice relaxing evening might just help the two of you to have a talk.
Don't feel bad. It is difficult for both parties.
hope all goes well.
madmouse