Hi guys Im 20 days post thr and ive got a couple of questions the first one is does anyone else have like a tingling down the operated leg when standing up its a bit like pins and needles but more severe its not everytime i stand but happened the other afternoon then again this morning when i first got out of bed ??
Secondly re going back to work i know we all heal at different times but i just wanted a rough idea I look after my 2 grandsons full time as my daughter and son inlaw both work full time the boys are aged 2 and 3 and as you can imagine they are a handful my daughter has managed to sort out alternative care for the first 4 weeks of my recovery but she s struggling to find care after that my question is am i going to be well enough after 35 days to start having them again im not sleeping at night as its still too uncomfortable on my back and find im worn out and very sore after just washing a few dishes and pottering round the kitchen. Im worried that it will be too soon to have them ie incase one of them hurts thereself or they need me to bend down i dont want to mess up my recovery or risk breaking my hip precautions. Due to the nature of what I do i wondered if someone could give me an idea of when they think the best and safest time to start having the boys back would be..
Tracy xxx
Oooooo that's a tricky one. Running & catch them & bending yikes. I think to preserve the integrity THR components it wil take more time before you can take care of busy toddlers.
Hi Tracy
Sorry can't help you re pins and needles. I am now 13 weeks post thr. .my gran daughter is 2 and I care for her one day week while my daughter in law works. Originally I thought could resume looking after her after 6 weeks but that was before surgery.with restrictions lack of sleep and fear of dislocation.. . Also if she ran suddenly I wouldn't be able to catch her. Surgeon said very risky and advised against this. He advised waiting till at least 9 weeks. I really missed caring for her and felt guilty letting daughter in law down but took his advice. I found when starting to have her again I was shattered at end of day and achy but so good to be with her again.. I am 53 by the way. X
Hi Tracy
I'm 4 weeks post opp and I am looking after my 3 year old granddaughter one day a week I'm also back driving after been given the all clear by my surgeon we all heal differently I am doing better than expected not sure about looking after 2 little ones full time though. Not had the pins and needles but find it gets quite painful to stand for longer than 15 minutes. Hope this helps good luck with your grandson.
Hi Tracey im 48 and thats the way i feel so guilty but i will be no good to anyone if my hip dislocates they are a handful and tend once a day at least to run in circles round the house like looneys they done this on sunday whilst everyone was here and it ended up with the 3 yearold screaming after bumping into the wall i worry that i wont be able to catch them or prevent an accident. x
hi tracy,
not sure darling ... it seems too early - when is your follow up appointment? Usually around week 6 post-op --- you want to make sure that you are healing well, prothesis accepted by your body etc ... maybe some restrictions will be lifted, however the 90 degree rule was extended until at least 12 weeks in my case - and don't forget the lifting - the bumping against you etc ...
we do have young mothers on this forum too, so maybe they will be able to give you more practical advice --
how are you getting on otherwise?
big warm hug
renee
Thanks all
I think im gonna have to put looking after them full time off for a while longer i do feel guilty but ultimately i will be a better nan when i can run round with them maybe my daughter will have to look into alternative care for them for a while im due to have my left thr in six months so its all gonna start again.
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Hi Tracy I think you are making the right decision I'm having my left hip don in about 4 months good luck
Suzanne
Hi Renee
I havent had appointment date threw yet. The boys are a bit hyper which is a concern bless them i must admit even when they come to visit im on edge in case they run into me or try and jump on me. other than this i am slowly getting there cant stand the nights sleeping is awful but every morning i do potter round doing a bit more every day im still really stiff and get a lot of groin pain but i know its just the healing so keeping positive.How are you?
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Thankyou Glenn and good luck xx
good decision Tracey .... oh, those guilt feelings are terrible and we do it to ourselves !!!!
and another THR is in the near future ? You need this time to heal properly darling -- Is your other hip hurting?
I had 2 THR surgeries in 6 months - my operated hip couldn't really heal properly as it had to support the other hip -
do make the follow up appointment, okay and come back here anytime you have a concern, question or just want to chat ...
angel blessings and remember that You Are Number 1
renee
I have the pins and needles mostly in the morning but after I get up for a while it goes away . I am 5. Weeks out and still can't bend over till at least December when I see Dr again . I watch 3 of my grandkids ages 15 12and8 but I have not resumed watching them as of now. To tired sore and have to give it time to heal . Not allowed to pick up heavy things and afraid they will run in to me . Good luck
Good morning Tracy,
I am now 8 weeks post op and yes I do the pins and needles down my legs especially after laying down or sitting for long periods. I have it continously in my right foot but I sprained my ankle somehow during the first week.
I would not consider looking after small children at the moment as I get tired but also the constant mental and physical care at this age would be far to much for you at this time.
It is hard on our children with childcare, but your health must come first if they ever want to you return having the children. You need to fee 100% confident otherwise it will be a strain on you. And how are you going to be able to grab them when they are in danger there are to many sinarious that could happen.
Good luck with your recover and time, patients and rest are all a major factor.
Elaine
Hi Tracey everyone heals differently but I wouldn't risk it but I'm going on my healing and I'm walking small walks with no crutches at all but to have two little ones running around and the attention they need I would say no , but that's your choice and how you feel you could cope . Hope this helps
Morning Tracy! I too am a grandma. I was watching my 3 grandkids over the summer before surgery. 13, 8 & 2&1/2. But to be changing diapers or helping to use potty if potty trained might be too much. Especially the bending over & twisting at your early stage. I too feel guilty and miss my grandkids so much. But with my slow progress there was no way I could watch the little one. She's still in diapers and needs more attention. My two older ones are ok as they can help me!! Right now I only see my oldest granddaughter after school. My hubby picks her up. I wish I could pick her up but I'm not driving yet. Wishing you all the best in your healing and recovery! LD
No, you don't want to be doing that. You can't make a 2 year old understand that he can't grab grannys leg as she is hobbling by.
I am a dog trainer and went back just to teach puppy class once a week from a chair about 18 days after surgery. I sat in a chair with my walker placed strategically around my legs so no one would bump me. It worked well BUT the fatigue of being thetr
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The fatigue of being watchful and talking and "on" was exhausting. I lasted one hour then went home to sleep.
You MUST take care if yourself first. Looking after small children is exhausting even if you are young and healthy. You get no break if you need to rest.
Don't do it.
Hi Tracy I think thats a wise thing todo
Report the tingeling,as my Dr.always ask about numbness.. I know you want to help your daughter but she willhave to find day care for a lot longer if you hurt yourself.My mother in law watched my kids but I always had a back up babysitter.That was my responsibility.You just should not be running after kids of that Age . You will be put in a risky position.Kids can't help but be kids.Especially our 2-3 year boys,they are wiggleworms by their nature.
Hi Tracy,
First off - glad to know you are doing okay. The sleep stuff is pretty rough and getting past that takes a while and as you note it is all pretty individual.
So ... you are at 20 days (3 weeks) and wonder how you might manage 2 toddlers at 4 weeks ...
All I can say is that I could not have managed this. I am at about the same stage and overdid it yesterday - now struggling for it and all I did was a few chores to tidy up at my own pace.
Kids are far more demanding, and more significantly, less predictable.
I just can't see this being a good idea.the issue of course is that sudden movements and stress on still healing connective tissues can undo a lot of good work and recovery. This is not a risk that I would take, personally.
Maybe ... have the kids over for a half day with one of the parents around for back-up - to see how you might cope ... Agreeing to one day is not the same as steady 5 days/week. Good luck whichever way you go.