Hello everyone just another day doubting these feelings as being perimenopause. I know everything that I am going through is peri but its tough to keep believing it at times. Grrrrr!
Between the health anxiety and the peri i almost went nuts. I am much better now but it still hits on occasion and i will be a bit crazy for a day or two. I have learned to mediatate daily and treat myself more gently like i would a friend.
Thank you for the tips....I feel a bit bette, but the thought of some things coming back really make me frazzled. I guess I need to not worry so much about what might happen and enjoy the good days. Hope your day is going well
Doe, I want to do that, too - treat myself more gently and with forgiveness and kindness. It seems like I can do that for other people but not for myself, and I know it would help my health!
Becky, I struggle with this, too. I'm always afraid of getting another illness or having something bad happen (there again, my anxiety is talking!) because so much has gone wrong in that area for me this year. I'm glad we can come here to help each other - would go nuts without this forum!
I agree it's such a relief to come on here. In a funny way I look forward to the messages during the day. Gone were the days of going out clubbing and socialising,lol xxx
Same here! LOL Everyone here is so kind and helpful, and there really isn't anywhere else I can go where this many people (or any people, in some cases) can relate!
Thank you Elizabeth....what I get fearful of is feelings of not wanting to continue on or intrusive thoughts I hate even writing this. They scare me!
Yes me too. I'm trying to learn how to have self compassion and do self care. I hadn't realized how hard I am on myself. A friend said to me over a decade ago that I was so hard on myself and I had no clue then what she meant or even what it meant. I try to repeat affirmations that's helping some to redirect my thinking to be more self nurturing. But it's a tough thing to retire a lifetimes worth of habits.
I meant to say "rewire a lifetimes worth of habits". But I guess retire works too. 😀
I'm finding the same problem xx
Becky, I know those feelings all too well. You are not alone. I am trying to get back into some hobbies I enjoy to distract myself and feel better.
It is very hard. Various people have tried to help me, too, but I know it's up to me to take care of myself. As a friend in another forum said this week, I'm the only person I'll live with for my whole life. Being gentler to ourselves would make life more enjoyable.
Thank you Elizabeth I have been having major anxiety since I wrote that. Feels like Im loosing it when I have those horrible feelings. I am trying to get back into my hobbies as well. I crochet and cross stitch. What things do you do?
I like to knit and used to do some cross stitching, too. A knitting project and a good movie can take my mind off things.
I wish that I could knit Your right a good movie and some yarn is a great combo. Thanks again for responding
I feel that way also Becky! Sometimes I feel its just me. I can't concentrate on one thing anymore
Ditto ladies! I like to put a pot of proper coffee on after getting up & kind of look forward to reading the messages & chatting with the ladies in our group! Also gone are the days of socialising & clubbing!!! lol!! I find comfort in being quiet at home & using this forum. Ladies on here really are open & understanding, caring, & uplifting. xxx
Hi Sis, what you're trying to do with rewiring a lifetimes worth of habits & redirecting your thinking is a cbt technique which takes discipline & practise, but is a very positive method long term of trying to put to bed anxiety & be a calmer person that is kinder to one's self. So well done! Keep at it Sis! xxx
Becky, I cut the big crossword out of our local paper every week & keep them in a folder. When I need to take my mind of things & aren't pottering about the house or don't feel like watching tv or a film, I get my crossword folder & dictionary out & it sounds sad, but I can get really absorbed in a crossword! It can really take your mind of other things & is quite relaxing. As I said earlier, gone are the days of socialising & clubbing; I even a enjoy a milky drink before bedtime these days!!! xxx