Had sex for the first time and now my entrance is swollen and lumpy! Please help! I'm really scared

Sexual health
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Hi guys I need some help to explain why my entrance is so swollen. I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if something is actually wrong! I had sex for the first time yesterday and the guy I was with was very rough. It hurt the entire time and I don’t think he used enough lube!
Yesterday evening, I looked down and noticed that something was protruding from my entrance (first picture). It was lumpy and when I felt around it, it seemed lumps had grown all around my vaginal opening. Like the area had swollen and was puckering around the hole. Is this normal?
Today, the lumps are still there, circling my hole but isn’t irritated. I wore white underwear last night and when I checked, there were brown spots on it like watery blood. I still have normal colored discharge. It doesn’t seem like pus, maybe it’s just bleeding lightly? I can barely feel a difference until I sit down pressed against my chair and then there’s some discomfort.
I was thinking it could just be swelling because my first time was extremely rough and painful. I just want to know if it’ll go away or if anyone else has experienced something similar! Did the rough sex cause friction or did it tear something that could cause such swelling? I’ve never had anything swell down there before and I’m really scared.
He wore a condom so I don’t think it’s HPV! Does anyone know what this is? Please help! I am very scared and I don’t have a way to get to a doctor’s office right now! Any help is appreciated! Thank you

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neeed clearer photos.

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im actually having this same exact problem ive been looking it up on the internet and everything but it seems like no one knows what im talking about i got mine like that for the first time this year and im not a virgin. i hope someone can answer this for you

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Probably just broke your hymen. Im a male but try searching this. Good luck finding a GP.

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Probably just broke your hymen. Im a male but try searching this. Good luck finding a GP.

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hi its just a combination of breaking your hymen and a lot of friction and rubbing from a lack of lubricant. pretty normal just give it a few days it should be fine :slight_smile:

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i think maybe it was just swelling due to rough treatment. I’ll definitely do some more research but i think its already getting a little better!

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I’ll do some more research! Thank you!

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ok thank you for the info! i feel a lot better now and the swelling has gone down a bit! i think i was just overreacting a bit

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it probably was due to the roughness and lack of lubrication! the watery brown discharge may have been a result of the sex. ik when i first did it sometimes it made me spot a bit after. the brown color is probably old blood that was left in the uterus. use more lube next time, and it shouldnt be uncomfortable when having sex. if a certain position or speed hurts speak up to your partner! only you know what you like:) as per the bumps i am not too sure

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i think that’s what it was too! I’ll definitely take your advice and talk to my partner! Thank you so much!

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  1. like the others said its probably bc of the hymen breaking and overall rough sex

  2. TALK TO YOUR PARTNER girlie! Sex isn’t just about him. get lube, and foreplay

best of luck!!!

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couldnt agree more im sure you were nervous for your first time but it doesnt sound like you were very sexually arroused.

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Did he know it was your first time? If so, unless it was his first time also, he was being selfish. You better set him straight.

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I definitely will! Thank you for the advice!

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i super nervous! you’re right. I wasn’t very aroused because it hurt so much

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yeah I told him and it was not his first! He kept telling me it was normal to hurt and that it’ll pass but I think he should’ve known better!

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agreed!!!

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i think you deserve better. it should have been done delicatly, gentle, and slow of course your hymen breaking hurts but the sex itself shouldnt have left you sore from dryness. please know that this is NOT your fault women take alot more work to be arroused.

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my guess is he just broke your hymen and was a little too rough. Next time Don’t be afraid to speak up and tell him it’s too rough. Foreplay is important too don’t let him forget that!