I was raped anally back in 2011. I didn't go to see a doctor after that experience because I felt so humiliated about being sodomised and even now three years later I can barely bring myself to say that word. After that event, I noticed that I had a haemorrhoid but it never bothered me; I'm never constipated and don't need to strain. Lately though it's been giving me problems, particularly when I walk. It almost feels like it's chafing against my knickers or butt cheeks and sometimes it starts to bleed if I walk long distance. Needless to say, that's sore at best and painful at worst and fairly debilitating for someone who loves hiking and running.
Do I have to go to a doctor or are there over-the-counter medications I can use? My main reason for avoiding the doctor right now is that I no longer live in the UK but also because I don't want to explain how I got this injury. I know being raped wasn't my fault but I hate the judgement, pity, embarassment and vulnerability that comes with telling people about it. If there are over-the-counter meds, which ones are best? I've only heard about creams that can reduce the size of haemarrhoids...
My advice, go have it checked. Just for peace of mind if nothing else. Good kuck and sorry for what happened to u xoxo
Typos...i meant 'good luck' of course...
Dear Ouchie
Just knowing the pain involved with piles I can only say I kinda understand why you would not want to discuss it. I am recovering from a hemmeroidectomy so may be able advise you (u can read my experience on this forum somewhere I'm not sure if the code will link you to my posts let me know and I can paste a link). Anyway without knowing if you are M or F or your age it's going to be general. But first a question: how do you know its a hemmeroid? If it is you can use Calc. Fluor (see me experience) to manage things plus the stuff you may already be doing - your diet sounds ok as u say u r not constipated or strain. The creams are pretty useless from over the counter. Are you saying that (constipation/straining) never happens? If it ever does then my money is on the pile (if that is what it is) continuing to be a problem. Since you are 3 or 4th degree - by the sound of it - some kind of procedure may be necessary. So this maybe the bit where you understandably switch off. Why the heck should you have to deal with this - it's not your fault right. Well there are something's that can't be explained always I guess. My wife was attacked that way. It's something that doesn't figure in our relationship so I pray she's over it but she doesn't suffer like you. Your experience is saying you have to deal with it. Unfortunately without really knowing that it's a hemmeroid or wether there was/is some other underlying bodily trauma you can't properly move on. Maybe now that you have been able to discuss what happened anonymously you can summon up more courage to go back to that event in order to ensure your future happiness? I think you can do that. And so I would suggest you raise it with a trusted health care professional. Well done for keeping it together thus far and don't please be alarmed by my experience - your piles will likely not (in the normal sense) be as bad as mine BUT I think your body is telling you something and you need to listen. Hemmeroids are vagabonds of the bowel - they invariably stay down and out! In other words there is a chance they won't get better by themselves and will therefore get worse. In which case the sooner they are dealt with the better. So if that's what they are or not, either way I agree with Kaleani go get it checked.
Best wishes!