Hi everyone, hope you are all coping well. I am ok during the day despite the constant pressure pain in my bottom. But at night the demons come and start to nag at me. Has anyone else experienced these bad feelings when they are alone.I had the mood swings on and off thankfully mainly off post op but they stopped at 6 weeks. Now these are really bad about my body image. My specialist has encouraged me to use vitamin e oil night and day and oestrogen cream daily for the night forthight , the twice a week as my perineum skin is very thin and stetched especailly on one side. He showed me in a mirror so I could pay extra attention to that side. He also wants me to start back on my kegals which I am trying cant feel any tightening at all at the moment but it was like that last time and they worked really well in the end.Ever since he showed me and I have to look down there to do the massage I look so damaged and deformed that I no longer feel like a women. The thought of sex is so unbearable as I am still in pain down there and yet I feel like I am letting my hubby down badly. In desperation I looked up treatments for thickenering of the skin down there and apart from the oestrogen cream laser surgery came up? Has anyone had this done to help soften or reshape scar. I am really worried about tearing my perineum as the scar skin is so thin and very short. Appreciate any help
tilley I haven't had that treatment but I know it is successful as it is performed in my local Health Trust where I still do project work. They have just received more funding to help more women
siubds like you are very stressed out which will have a detrimental affect on your system and slow down the healing process. Surely your husband would make sure you get better before you both even think about sex. Stop worrying and look after you Hun. Xx
Hubby has not been that supportive ok in 1st 4 weeks, but after that no longer helping me out even though ii am bac working 6hr a day.keeps commenting on how spec said 6 weeks recovery time and making poor jokes to others about me putting it on to get out of doing stuff including sex. I was really ill with skin condition which they believe was caused by dress few years ago so do know what you are saying but my poor healing spec says due tobad scaring & trauma to area.. So not worrying just seeking advice. Had lovely post from lady who had similar and coped and is still coping with painful condition but hubbybmore supportive.thanks Ps what is siubds?
Hi matron, thanks for reply. I am going to start my spec advice to stretch area and soften scars after I talk with him again hopefully today. Being in constant pain and discomfort is so exhausting. Been like that for 8 days now following internal exam at 6 wk check up. Thought I would give it time to settle down but it hasn't in fact I think its worst. Anyway once followed his treatment if I cant touch area without pain will get referred.. Feeling more positive . Thanks again xx