i really hate this person that whenever i see her i feel very anxious and only thinking about her make me feel so sick. i cant even look at her picture on social media..is this also part of having anxiety?..
Hate is a very strong word. Has this person done something to make you feel this way, or is it an unprovoked reaction? There's obviously something about them that triggers your anxiety. If you figure this out, you might be able to rationalise it better and overcome the problem. All the best.
she had said bad and insulting things to me (like im fat) in the past that made me lose my confidence on my appearance before, those words are the reason why i dont feel good about my self for a long time.i thought im way over those things but everytime i see her i feel really bad and i cant help it.she is really a mean person. i dont know if i should stay away because it also means staying away from my family. (she is my brother's wife)
It makes sense then why you feel negatively towards her. Sometimes, people are very insensitive with their words and they don't realise how much their comments hurt people. Often, people say these offensive things because they themselves are insecure. If she wasn't a family member, I would definately advise you to have nothing to do with a person who makes you feel this way. However, it's difficult when it's a family member. Have you ever spoken to her about this and how she's made you feel? I would say that you need to try and resolve these feelings one way or another because it's clearly harming you to carry around all this resentment. If you talk to her about it and she carries on behaving in a way that's upsetting to you, then I would say limit any involvement even if it's a family member.
thank you for that advice cara.i hope one of these days i will find the courage to talk and stand up to her so i can get rid of these unwanted emotions/hate.
do you know this person