I was diagnosed herpes 2 five years ago. I didnt aware I had it and was in relationship. Until the first outbreak I got tested, same as my ex. His result came out positive, we didnt know who got first but we supported each other.
We broke up almost 2 years ago, we remained friends and he already started a new relationship one year ago. He told me sometimes he didnt use any protection with his gf(she knows) and she has been okay.
I know that herpes can pass to others even there is no outbreak, but from my ex expeirence, his gf and him are good so far. Just wonder if anyone has similar expereince with his/her partners? If you have unprotected sex when there is no outbreak?
I have met a guy and told him the whole situation. He said he doesnt care and still want to be with me. He wanted to have unprotected sex, but i really dont want to put him at risk. I did saw others for short time also with unprotected sex. He got tested a few month ago and result came out negative.
Please share with me if you have similar experience with me.
I got diagnose recently, so I know for sure that when your immune system is let say.. down and you are sick or something like this then the herpes strikes, so not everyone can get infected. I am a little bit afraid that no one will want me because of the herpes ....
teodora, I understand how you feel and I know things are not easy. But don't give up, the frustration will get less as time pass by. There are people out there for you, it takes time to find. I think the best is to build a relationship first, get to know each other. Then find a timing to tell about herpes. I have experienced some people turned away instantly, but there are people who accepts me. This road will never be easy, but we need to be strong.
I caught herpes when I was 20 years of age and all I was told was that I had it for life and treat outbreaks with warm salty water....... I'm now 52 and as far as I'm aware have never passed it on. As the years go buy it becomes less and less and I used to get a like tingle in the top of my leg when I was about to have an outbreak. I will say it is very hard telling a new partner but I think you must be upfront however hard it may be. I think you just need to be very very carefull and check yourself 110% before having sex which in some situations ain't easy..... . It is Not the end of the world however scared you may feel when you are diagnosed. I believe their is more advice and help now and of course the net which I never had..... Never give up
Hello! I caught herpes when I was 20 with one small blister that never returned. As far as I am aware I also have not passed it on (unless it is just dormant in the other person?)...
I have a husband and I have been with him for 7 years and we have unprotected sex and he has never gotten it either.
It is harder for a woman to pass to a man, and the longer you have it without outbreaks the less likely to pass on.. apparently.
I have been super lucky. Althought I don't get outbreaks "down there" A couple times a year I will get a rash on my knee, thigh or arm... which is apparently HSV2!!! weird huh.
Im in a relationship with someone who has herpes. He takes his medication everyday. And we've had unprotected sex. This relationship is fairly new. As much as I care for him..which is a lot. I feel like I made the biggest mistake of my life, and regardless of him not having an outbreak...im rather confident I have been infected. I want to go get tested...but im afraid he'll feel horrible himself, and be upset.
I feel like this relationship should have just never happened. ..
I caught herpes at the age of 18, I caught it from an ex -boyfriend. He knew he had it, and hadn't had an outbreak in a while and decided to test things out on me (without my consent). By the time i had an outbreak, we had broken up (i never seen him again), and was in a new relationship that was 3 weeks old. I cried to my new boyfriend at the time, that i had to break up with him because i had herpes, and didn't want to take him through this. He held me, and said "i don't care, we'll get through this together, I'll catch it too, i want to be with you." (Again only been with him for 3 weeks)That was almost 10 years ago, we are still together, been married for 8 years and have 4 kids (which i had vaginally, with my OB GYN'S okay). I keep up with my meds., he still hasn't caught it, and if i have an outbreak and can't have sex he is understanding. i don't have alot of outbreaks either. Besides my husband and my doctor, this is the first time i have ever talked about this secret. No one knows, no close relatives or friends. Anyway, stay optimistic. i have a healthy, loving, and sexual marriage. WITH KIDS. I know if i can have this ANYBODY with herpes can. You want it, it's going to happen for you.
Wow this is very encouraging to me. I just recently found out I have herpes. While just starting a relationship with a man I really care about. I thought he would run because we had unprotected sex once. But he hasn't and we are learning more about the boundaries we'll have. But this is my first outbreak is it always this painful.
I guess im new to this...felt bad all day...been married for a year and two months...I decided to go for a routine check up just because and for compensation for the military. ...i never cheated on my wife and she never cheated on me in the 3 years we been together but today i received info from my doc that i had type 2 herpes...WTF....how does that hapoen....she nor i havent had a break out....wat to do...we trying to have a baby...
could I have a question about your antiviral medication?
You say you keep up with your meds - are you taking the antiviral medication continuously or only when you have prodroms/symptoms? Aren´t there side effects (on liver or so) after long time use? And most importantly, have you been taking it during your pregnacy(ies)? I would like to know if it is any dangerous to take aciclovirs during pregnancy,as research seems to be non-conclusive about the matter at this point...
Okay so, my gf got tested and her test was positive but both only have had unprotected sex with each other and I don't understand how is it that she got herpes when she's only had unprotected sex with me?
My bf knows and we have unprotected sex he loves me and I love him! I also told him before we even started dating just to lay everything out on the table before any feelings got involved
Hi Carol your experience has encourage me. I had herpes when I was 29 my ex boyfriend had it and didn't know it. Now I'm 39 and single. Is hard for me to start a new relationship and tell them about it. I feel less than any other women.
I've had herpes for 9 years now and never past to any off my ex partners its hard and I feel sick that I have to live with it for the rest off my life 😢
I was replying to your post. It is possible to not get herpes if your partner has it and you're having unprotected sex. My partner has had herpes for 6 years and we've been having unprotected sex for 2 years and I don't have it. If there is no signs of outbreaks and the person with herpes does not feel it coming on the other partner will not contract it. I'm not a doctor but this is from personal experience, so I'm not sure if my immune system is just very strong but I cannot speak for other people. I hope this helps a little bit being that I'm not the only one because there was another post that stated as well that a couple one with herpes and one without was having unprotected sex and the person without didn't contracted either I guess it just depends on when you have sex
reading you comment made me feel a little better. I have been dealing with this for 5 years.I got it from my son dad, or at least I think I did. I wanted to know are you still with your husband and did he ever get it? I recently had unprotected sex with my partner and now I'm afrid I at gave it to him.even though I don't have many outbreaks
I just recently started a new relationship with a guy i have been friends with for years. He found out about a year ago that he has herpes. We are generally very cautious when being intimate. However we had sex the other night without any protection. He was not having an outbreak or any symtoms. He constantly assures me that he will not give it to me but i am very nervous. How high of a risk is it that i could have caught it that one time without him having any symtoms? My doctor says the testing for herpes is not very accurate in distinguishing between HSV-1 and HSV-2. But i would rather get some kind of clarification instead of just waiting to find out. Or maybe im just over thinking the whole situation. I am very confused.