Hi people, can anyone help me? I have just read some hospital notes today, which said i had narcissistic personality disorder, but i have never heard of this before. No-one has mentioned this before. What is it and does having PTSD maybe underly the symptoms similar to this disorder
Hi I found this online. I hope it doesn’t upset you but you did ask. x
Sorry it didn’t post correctly but that is a good site about it. x
Thanks Hypercat I forgot you post on here i have read what the site says but i can’t be sure this is what i have, how can you tell if you have it?
You can’t because you are not a medical expert. Why not go and see one and tell them what you have been told and ask for a firm diagnosis and all the information you need regarding the PTSD part of it. Do bear in mind though that mental health isn’t an exact science and professionals could differ in diagnoses. Good luck with it. x
Just a brief reply back to say i am speaking to my doctor about this and counsellor, so i will find out the sick sordid truth this week. Thanks for your comments sometimes you’re too honest, i could have done with a bit of support.
Pardon me! I won’t bother answering you again and trying to help. And don’t read my replies in future.
That’s just rude, ok i won’t feeling really shredded. I reach on here fod support, delete this post if you want.
Hi Sam - I come from a family of narcissists. I’ve got a big mouth and always have an opinion. I didn’t realise it until I got older and started to get an interest in psychology. The mirror was my family. My elder brother, the first born, is rife with narcissism. Entitled. Know’s everything, and wants everyone to know it. Watching him taught me about myself. Also, when i hear myself speak, I am very aware that i must modulate my responses with the awareness that there are many perspectives out there, and my one is probably wrong and that i don’t know everything. I often cringe when remembering some of the opinions I’ve felt the need to expound because i thought the world was waiting for them. No they weren’t. Narcissism can be managed when one is aware of the limitations and smallness of oneself. Don’t worry, mate - narcissism is rife - it’s not attractive, but it’s not a crime.
Well this is rude too! I take the time and trouble to try and help and all you can do is criticise me. I am not paid to answer anyone you know and it’s only me and Wayne who has bothered replying. I would delete it if I could and would also block you if I could! You are the rude one.
How do i know if i have this? That’s i was trying to find out.
Hi Hypercat, i did say i was going through a really rough time, i don’t intend to hurt anyone either but was trying to discover the truth or how to find it out. I walked out last night with no intention of returning as i feel such a burden to everyone. I am really struggling like it sounds you are too
We’re meant to support people on here and that’s what i try to do. I am blunt some days i have verbal Dyspraxia and in sheer frustration can shoot my mouth off. There’s no need to be so cross, i just said well you know what i said. Honesty sometimes really hurts. My mother tries this all the time and cuts me up with it. If you choose not to reply that is your choice, i am exceptionally scared by what i read at the hospital and i’ve not got it out of my head.
Hi again, Sam - an indicative factor is if you have the capacity to consider others in an event - like right now I’m sitting on plane waiting to fly from Gold Coast to Sydney. I’m worried about getting home, that traffic’s not bad, that the dog hasn’t pooped anywhere to punish me for leaving him for 12 hours. Meanwhile a woman 2 seats down is flying to be at her mother’s deathbed. Do my confected concerns outweigh hers? I’ll fly many times in this situation. She’ll do this once. Whose situation is more important?
HiI Wayne that’s interesting, i put everyone else first, i feel i Don’t count anymore and shouldn’t be here as i’ve let everyone else down. The counsellor i go to said what i have is close to mental torture. I will give you an example my cats needed food last week and so did my husband and i, but because LOROS (a local hospice that looked after my dad when he was dying) needed cake for a cake sale to raise funds, i wasn’t bothered about me so i went with having nothing for me but fed everyone else. And that makes me narcissistic?
Yes we are meant to support others on here but I read your post as also asking for advice on narcissism. Was I wrong? This is what I gave you. I couldn’t give you support coz it wasn’t in me that day and I can’t summon up feelings that are often detached like mine.
If I couldn’t provide support as well shouldn’t I have replied? We are all struggling. As far as I know I didn’t upset you but just didn’t provide what you really wanted. I am sorry but I do my best. I just felt you were lashing out at me for doing my best.
It’s probably better to draw a line under it now I think.
Thanks for replying back, i asked my doctor about this comment that as made from the hospital and she said she’d need firm evidence. It sounds like a bad day all round. Hope your day is better today.
Sam - You fed everyone else and had the cake ready for sale. After that, did you expect praise for your acts? What was the intention behind them?
The cake sale was for LOROS, i expected nothing back. My dad died of cancer 6.5 years ago and i did it to pay them back, as i can’t put a price on my dad’s life. He should be here not me, i am not a nice person, j’ve hurt too many people. That makes me what and no i don’t want any sympathy.
Are you ok wayne, not heard from you for a few days.