My boyfriend told me he has hsv 2 about 1 month into our relationship. At first I didn't make a big deal out of it, and initially said I want to continue seeing him but lets wait to have sex. I know this virus is super common and not a dealbreaker, but I do need to prepare to get it if we continue on together because eventually we will have sex.
Has anyone else been in these shoes and has been able to enjoy a long term relationship and prevent transmission while still having a fulfilling sex life?
Herpes is more of a skin condition
it only happens sometimes nd doesnt change anything except when there is an out break and you have to abstain from sex
but i have heard good stories on people being together and not passing it on
he should get on daily meds so he can reduce the chance of transmission also recommend u guys always wear a condom
meds reduce the chance of transmission 48%-50
and condoms another 50
How long has he had it for?
and if u really like him this shouldnt be a problem
Hello thanks for replying. He has had it for 9 years. My doc told me that it can still be passed when he isn't having an outbreak. In fact my doc was downplaying it telling me its ok if I get it because we can treat it. From my understanding meds are expensive and come with side effects too. It would be nice hear from couples where one person has hsv and another person doesnt. How do you make it work?
I highly recommend he be in daily suppressive therapy and you use condoms. For male to female transmission using the meda and condoms a yr, the risk is 5%. Google H Opportunity . there are stories of discordant couples on that forum.