I've been depressed all my life!! I have server lack of motivation so find it really difficult to do absolutely anything most days I hate waking up!! I've always found it really really hard to interact & communicate with others I find it really awkward people looking at me having to talk to people etc so I do as little of it as possible each day I really hate being like this I feel really stuck it's ruining every aspect of my life I have 3 children & I worry so much about how things are with me is affecting them which makes me more depressed panicky anxious etc it's like 1 big cycle i don't even go to the doctors cz I hate it I haven't even got a gp right now cz can't even do that as it involves talking about things & I'm worried they will think I'm crazy & can't cope with my kids or something.. Really don't no where to begin getting the proper help I need..
Start by making an appointment woth your gp or doctor. That is the very first step. Have an exam and tell your doctor what you are experiencing.
Hey kezz,
I can understand it's scary proclaiming to ur doc that ur having difficulties and hav 3 kids.
Ur worried that this could have consequences for your kids.
Don't worry, your kids won't be taken off you. Go to your local doctors surgery and register with them. Then arrange an appointment to see a doctor.
Be honest with them, explain your difficulties and how you feel as well as how it affects ur day to day
Routine.
I suffer from social anxiety and have all my life but recently I've turned things round. I used to get panicky inside when confronted with large social groups, not know what to say, say stupid things, get embarrased when the focus was on me, want to leave if I felt I was left out or quiet, just generally a bit awkward.
I think the first step with me was think and remember you don't need to respond quick as a flash, give urself a few seconds to respond. We all want to be witty and quick but actually I learnt that it's OK for me or anyone to wait and think before replying.
I hope this helps.
I can relate to your problem am a single dad of four beautiful kids I have been feeling like this all my life too I have no mental or physical motivation and I just don't want to get up from bed, am afraid of talking to people and keep my distance from any communications with anyone, I too hate this feeling and get so upset with this cycle am in I have spoken to doctors and the CMHT about my concerns but every therapy I take doesn't help. I have gotten help and been on several medications but here I am. I think this is due to having no family or friends but everyone is different and think talking is still better than holding it inside,, don't be ashamed of being a parent and not being able to show your example of being a good mum we all have problems and need help and being a parent is the most commendable and respected jobs on the planet and rewarding, you are developing and creating a asset to the world to bring peace love and ideas to this ever changing world, it needs our future children and it's our responsibility to nuture them. so keep going and talk to your doctor I thought when I expressed my problems that the social workers would be the first point of call, but getting all the help and assistance was at their finger tips to provide it never helped and I have more of myself still unanswered but it may just help you good luck and open up it may set you free it also feels good when you talk to someone that wants to and was educated to listen and help. again wishing you good health and all the best in your future.
No one will think you're crazy! And don't be afraid of medical help. Needing help is no real upon you as a mother. Get a good and take it from there.You will feel better taking control. Get some help honey.
No reflection upon you as a mother not "real" sorry bout that
What the hell? Get a GP it should say! That's what I typed!
Hey there Kezz,
Baby steps, that's all I am suggesting to you right now. Take it a tinny step at a time. First find the person out there that you trust the most, the person that won't judge you no matter what and tell them how you feel at that moment. Find the person that makes you feel the most secure and tell them and even if you can't find someone I am guessing that most people in this discussion forum ( of course including myslef) would be more than glad to lend you a free of jugment, understanding ear so that you start your first baby step to felling a little better. But if you still feel that is too hard, then just pick 15-20 minutes of your day to right down exactly how you feel like. Getting some of your thoughts out there does lift a tinny weight of your chest and could possibly help you to maybe advance to the next baby step, which could possibly be to get some help form a good therapist ( it is vital to find someone you can trust b/c it will make the process much more easier more you).
I had been there, the part when you don't even want to get out of bed and you have no motivation, the part where everything seems like a viscous cycle I couldn't imagine going though all this while having 3 kids to care about.
Not to be repetitive, but baby steps could be helpful again. Do you work ?? Maybe is your work that making you feel like you lack motivation .... I would suggest that each day you find something a little thing that could possibly make you excited and motivated to get out of bed the next day.
I had always being waiting until it was too late to share my thoughts with peope, and I think on some level this amplified my anxiety in most cases.
A good therapist, a good doctor could be crucial for your recovery, and you are right some people even doctors could be judgmental jerks even when their jugment helps no one but nobody is to tell you that you can't cope with your children ( just being here asking question shows that you care that tells me that you are good mother ) or that you are crazy in any way.
I hope that you find the right way to deal with your anxiety and depression.