Girlfriend of 8 months confessed this weekend she has genital herpes for 15 years. We decided to have a child and she is pregnant one month. I am upset and asked her for time alone to handle this news. I am taking my role as a father to be important; however, I feel cheated and betrayed. I asked her if she had STDs during the first week of our relationship and she lied to me. Getting blood test tomorrow. First reaction would be to run in the opposite direction but I realize that would be selfish. Trust is very important too. I feel trapped. Any word of wisdom would be appreciated. Thank you.
That's a tough one. Which type does she have? If HSV2, was she at least taking daily antivirals for it while she was with you?
It's very hard to tell someone that u have this very stigmatized skin infection (that is really all it is) everyone think omg herpes and yes nobody really WANTS it but alot of people weren't given the choice as u weren't if u do have it. Do u love this girl enough to get over it? Is being with her worth the risk? These are the questions u have to ask ur self. If u answered yes then understand that was probably the most horrible thing she has ever had to do is disclose that she has this. I've been with my husband for 17 years and had my first outbreak in august and didn't even know ive had it for all these years then to have to tell him I had it was horrible! Just take a little time and decide what u wanna do..hopefully she us on antivirals and that will reduce the risk of passing it to baby the Dr's will know what to do when it comes to that part